My sons Kindergarten secret blew my mind!

Amanda - posted on 03/08/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Today my 6 year old son came home with a secret. A girl on his bus pulled her pants down and an older boy touched her. The older boy then told my son to touch her, to which he said no. I give my son props for knowing it was wrong and telling me about it. He also asked me to go to the school and tell someone. He and I had a long conversation on what a private part is, why it's called private and how no one should see or touch it. This is NOT a conversation I planned on having with him in kindergarten. I'm proud he knows better, and that gives me confidence as a mother.

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Jenni - posted on 03/09/2012

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We had sex ed in grade 6 and I'm a few years older than you. But I don't recall much sex talk from my parents. Other than the "changes to my body". Unfortunately, kids today are finding out much earlier because of the media influence or older siblings, students. One kid finds out a nitty gritty detail and the whole class hears about it. So it's best to get to them before outside influences do. Let your voice as his parent be the loudest one.



It's an age appropriate process. Mostly you just go by questions your child asks you. Let him lead the conversation and answer age appropriately. IMO at his age now, he really only needs to know about private parts and respect for others PP's. As well as what to do if, godforbid, someone were to try and take advantage of him.



I think around 8-9 is a good time for the puberty talk. Allow him to ask questions.



10-12 is a good age to start to arm kids with the knowledge of respect for their bodies, pregnancy and STD prevention, peer pressure, and other knowledge that will be important for them in making safe and conscientious decisions concerning their future sexuality. These talks should be continuous between 10-18 yrs.

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Kaitlin - posted on 03/09/2012

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*picks jaw off floor*



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note to self: prepare 29 month old son.

Amanda - posted on 03/09/2012

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Yeah, it lead to another interesting conversation at the school with the guidance counselor (who indecently is about my age). She said I handled it well, but be prepared, the sex talk should take place within the next 2 years. Really? By 8 years old? I'm 26 and still haven't had the sex talk!

Jenni - posted on 03/08/2012

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Good on you son! My son is 3.5 and I have talked to him about private parts already. It's never too young to start. I want my son to be armed with knowledge if he is ever in a bad situation. I've told him that his private parts are just for him. No one else is allowed to see them or touch them and he is not allowed to touch other people's private parts. If someone does he needs to tell mommy or daddy right away.



It's great your son already understood it was wrong and wrong enough that he wants you to report the incident.

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