My sons penis is gigantic with a bend anything i can do to fix it?

Lisa - posted on 08/30/2017 ( 65 moms have responded )

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Hello there I am Lisa I am concerned about the size of my sons penis and shape, I have no idea how he could have gotten this big or how he could have gotten this bend in his shaft. My son Matt is 18 now and his penis reaches over 13 inches long and about 5 inches wide with a bend of a J shape, I examined him one evening after he told me something was wrong with his penis and I was shocked in disbelief he truly has that biggest penis I've ever seen but the J shape has got to go, the doctor said he might need surgery to fix it , I'm a single mom is there any home remedies I can do to try and fix him ? Please help and thank-you!!

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Michelle - posted on 08/31/2017

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This line got me upset: "If me and my son don't view it as incest than it isn't to us"
So think of a child molester who has convinced his victim that what he is doing is normal. Does that mean that he's no longer molesting a child?
You are so wrong and the fact that you are having to think about it means somewhere in your head, you know it's wrong.
Please also don't post all the details on here or I will have to delete them. We don't need to know.

BTW: I don't respond to PM's regarding posts on the boards.

Sarah - posted on 08/31/2017

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So your sister is a board certified plastic surgeon and a certified massage therapist? Both professions would be mandated reporters and the act you are considering in an act of incest. Not to mention a health care provider would tell you the deep tissue massage of the delicate vessels of the penis could result in a broken blood vessel and a very painful hematoma.

Michelle - posted on 08/31/2017

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I love all my children as well but there is a line you need to draw and touching your adult son's penis is one of them. If he has a problem then he needs to be seen by a doctor.
You (and your son) may actually do more damage since you don't actually know what you are doing. You aren't qualified in deep tissue massage and you will probably make things worse.
If he really is that concerned about it then like was said in the beginning, he can get a job with insurance and get it fixed properly.
He is an adult and you need to step back, you aren't doing him any favours by still treating him like a child. I know in one of the earlier comments you said that if he left you would be all alone, well sorry to say, that's what happens when our children grow up. We are given the job to raise them to be able to support themselves and make their own choices. We can't be there for them forever and they need to make their own way in life.

Sarah - posted on 08/31/2017

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Lisa, as a health care provider for women and children I implore you to try to step outside of your situation and look at it objectively if you can. If your son wants to try to massage his penis like a piece of clay, then he can do that himself without you watching, touching, commenting, measuring or evaluating. Massage will do nothing. As all three of the most reputable medical institutions have stated. If your sister, the surgeon, as actually advised this; then I question her credentials and what sort of surgeon is she anyway? Let say my 18 yo daughter is concerned because one breast is smaller than the other (which can be the case) would you advise her father massage it to make it larger. Both ideas are equally false and equally inappropriate. You sister is a mandated reporter and the day you massage your child's erect penis, you are guilty of an incestuous act. Despite all the ludicrous websites that tout ideas about straightening a penis; there is not one scientific study that backs this up.

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Lisa - posted on 08/31/2017

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I just went on to say that I wasn't going to further the massage and leave it as he was

Lisa - posted on 08/31/2017

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Although I'm not qualified in deep tissue massage my sister is and can show me her ways but I do agree with what your saying it is time for him to grow up and take matters into his own I admit I do get overwhelmed when he asks me to inspect it the size is huge , I don't know how much more I can take , I will conclude this by saying I don't want to do something I might regret so I will not be administering it to him

Lisa - posted on 08/31/2017

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It's just really hard to tell my son no, as he keeps complaining that it is a good idea and states how he can't perform the massage because he gets too side tracked and ends up just masterbating, I am seeing it from his point of view and yours too It's a hard decision for me ...

Lisa - posted on 08/31/2017

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Me and my son are going to have a talk soon.. this is illegal? How will I be prosecuted I never performed incest!!!

Lisa - posted on 08/31/2017

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If me and my son don't view it as incest than it isn't to us it would be just a helpful procedure that's all!!

Lisa - posted on 08/31/2017

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I am on vacation right now thank-you very much ,he is home now I haven't really brought up what was going to go on I have been avoiding it actually .. I still need more time to think

Lisa - posted on 08/31/2017

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I am still contemplating going through with the treatment , although even if I did it still wouldn't be , I'm doing it with only the best intentions for him and the utmost innocence, even when I examine him and measure him from time to time it's with the utmost innocence and am only trying to help him

Lisa - posted on 08/31/2017

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Sarah e-although my sister kept it quiet for her son , I in fact believe in her methods and I will document them publicly once finished

Sarah - posted on 08/31/2017

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Certainly a board certified plastic surgeon would follow the advice of the AMA. Or, if she had discovered a way to correct this issue she'd be a pioneer and should have published her methods. On and I certainly trusted my mother's advice as well. However some of it was simply old school and proven unsafe; like rubbing brandy on a teething child's gums.

Lisa - posted on 08/31/2017

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Sarah e- my sister is a certified plastic surgeon , her son had the same problem with the bend and she worked on it with a massage and it got better over the years almost completely straight, I trust family over anybody so therefore I will maybe be furthering this act I still till am nervous and I do have to think about it though so its not a definite yet !

Lisa - posted on 08/31/2017

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You are literally a crazy person who is obsessed with me stop commenting on my problems!!! And leave find something better to do thank-you get out of here and leave me alone! This is only for support !!

Lisa - posted on 08/31/2017

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As for dove she is blocked and I only want people who support and or have the same problem in here anybody else could be blocked too!!!

Lisa - posted on 08/31/2017

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He's coming home from his friends house in an hour I'll let you know how it goes...
Please support what I'm doing

Lisa - posted on 08/31/2017

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@Michelle it's not really as big of a deal as everybody says it is we are doing this later on today and nothing is going to change my mind

Lisa - posted on 08/31/2017

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@Michelle I will stay on this for a long period of time , I will post the results weekly today is our first session I am nervous but I will post every detail thank-you for your respect

Lisa - posted on 08/30/2017

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Me and my son talked it over and I honestly told him about the thread he didn't seem too mind but we will be furthering the massage as planned

Lisa - posted on 08/30/2017

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I've had a talk with him I told him he was to do it on his own he has to do it on his own let's see how this goes over tomorrow morning thanks ladies...

Michelle - posted on 08/30/2017

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I agree with the other ladies, you giving your son a deep tissue massage on his penis is not right. Like Sarah commented, it's incest, even if you don't have intercourse.
I have 2 sons and if they had a problem I would take them to the doctor and they can discuss it with a medical professional.
I love my son's (and daughter) and will do anything for them but there is a line that shouldn't be crossed. My oldest son told me when he needed to have Men's underwear when the children's ones didn't have enough room (I work in an underwear store so it's not a taboo subject here) but I haven't seen him naked for a few years now.
I respect his need for privacy and he would never ask me to look at his penis. He did have issues as a baby and I have asked him if there have been any issues since he hit puberty but again, I have not had a look myself.
There are some things that you shouldn't do as a parent and massaging your son's penis is one of them.

Sarah - posted on 08/30/2017

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I am both a mother of boys, and a nurse. What you are describing as doing is tantamount to incest. Massaging his penis will cause him to get an erection and have an orgasm. There is no evidence to support massaging as a method of straightening the penis. Yes, there are a lot of crazy websites but if you consult the AMA, Cleveland Clinic and the Mayo Clinic, all three state that curvature only needs to addressed if sexual intercourse is impeded (sounds like he is not having sex since he doesn't work either) or the man is in pain. I don't know your sister's credentials but deep tissue massage of the delicate vessels of the penis could actually harm him.
Except for the fact that he wants you to do it, and you want to do there is no other reason that you should do it. However, I can think of about ten off the top of my head for why you should not do this to your child and if he wants to do it, he should do it himself. He is not disabled. He is grown adult, at least physically. He does not need your care taking.

Lisa - posted on 08/30/2017

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@ev I do respect what your saying doesn't mean I'm going to do it I'm his mother and mothers always know what's best, I told him about the therapy and he told me he would be more comfortable if administer it ,and I have no problem doing it it's not intimate I'm just comfortable with it and so is he

Lisa - posted on 08/30/2017

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@dove I am not a troll clearly I am a real person you can see my picture I'll even post another one if you don't beloved me please get out of here thank you , just because I treat my son differently than you treat yours does not mean I'm a troll if anything you are

Ev - posted on 08/30/2017

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Actually, Lisa, I do not know if you do appreciate what all of us are saying. Your son is an adult. This is an intimate thing. He needs to address this issue with a doctor himself.

Lisa - posted on 08/30/2017

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@ev I appreciate that you actually came to me like a respectable woman not bashing my ways of parenting ,I'm going to ask him to get a job and make some money for him and I , sure I work it's still not enough we can't find his father we haven't had contact with him since the divorce which was when he was 3 , so no child support came our way , but going back to seeing a doctor we are going to try this new method if that doesn't workout than we will look further into surgery , I just feel like I'm his mother and I can fix him , we are both very comfortable with the new idea and I will administer it starting tomorrow

Ev - posted on 08/30/2017

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Lisa--if the father ran out on you, you should have filed for child support while your son was a minor. Now he won't get it as an adult. And I read this entire thread and am in agreement with the others.

1. Get him to go to a doctor.
2. Quit taking online advice from unknown sources and people.
3. Quit doing everything for him.
4. Let him learn how to do things for himself.

My son is 20 years old, still lives at home, works a full time job, pays bills, and only asks me for advice when he actually needs to whether it is health related or other issues.

Lisa - posted on 08/30/2017

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Don't indicate to me that I don't know how to raise my child ever again please carry on it seems you have nothing better to do with your life than comment on my sons matter,not every job gives you health insurance fun fact and my son will get a job when he is ready please don't comment again thank-you

Lisa - posted on 08/30/2017

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Can you just get out of here please ! I'm tired of your comments making me feel like I'm crazy I love my son and I will do whatever it takes to make sure his penis is corrected without wasting the money we use to eat since his father took everything from us and left his son and doesn't pay child support,start to think in others perspective not just your own please don't comment on my post again thank-you have a good day , I will be sure to tell my son about this don't worry

Lisa - posted on 08/30/2017

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anything and everything I said is not fake I am real and so is my 18 year-olds problem it breaks my heart to think that he'll never have a normal penis so as his mother and his care taker I will keep helping him and start and try new ideas that don't involve surgery. I DO NOT NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP HE IS MY SON AND IM HIS MOTHER I WILL ALWAYS TAKE CARE OF HIM YEAH I BABY HIM A LITTLE BUT WHATEVER OT TAKES TO FIX MY SON I WILL DO !!! THANKYOU!!

Lisa - posted on 08/30/2017

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We don't have health insurance no that's why I'm forced to take matters into my own hands , it might seem I show alot of intimacy it's because I love him he's my son and I care about him, I'll do anything for my son he's all I have left . Alot of pediatrician's have done that other moms on other threads told me the same , when he was younger because of his abnormally large penis the doctors used to measure it all of the time, my son says he thinks it's getting bigger and asks me to measure it, so I examine him I don't just play with my sons penis like you are probably thinking I lift it straight check the sides check the bend check the back and check the front in a professional manner and I measure him after that we both don't mind it we are very close. My sister says since we can't afford health insurance we should try a deep tissue massage .and she's a surgeon

Sarah - posted on 08/30/2017

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I am not suggesting you are sexually involved, but you do share an unusual amount of intimacy. If your sister is a surgeon, I would think you'd have better advice at your fingertips than a cast or massage. Do you not have health insurance? i would imagine such a significant curve would impede sexual relations and be medically necessary; just as a breast reduction is paid for by insurance if a woman has back pain. Why would a pediatrician ever measure an erect penis? That would mean he either the doctor or the child or parent would have to stimulate the organ and as a medical professional myself, that seems very inappropriate.

Lisa - posted on 08/30/2017

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Sara- I just explained the white lie I made before to dove , my son feels more comfortable when I do the measuring , I've thought of kicking him out before since he is unemployed,but I couldn't bring myself to that I love my son and we're too close for that.I apologize if you feel a different way about what I do for my son, we talked to my sister who is a surgeon it would cost us thousands of dollars that we don't have so I'm stuck with home remedies there's nothing I won't do for my son but I respect what you commented , I'm not intimate with him .

Sarah - posted on 08/30/2017

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As the mother of two young men 15 and nearly 21, and I am very close with both of them. I am a nurse as well, I disagree that this falls within typical loving boundaries. For you to be getting out a tape measure while your son is sexually aroused seems quite atypical. You waver between this extraordinary intimacy and considering kicking him out, which seems very contradictory of your proclamation that measuring your son's "shaft" falls under your duties.
Also just hours ago you claimed to another mother that you fixed your son's curve with massage.
Finally, you did ask for advice: I told you to not try a home remedy and consult a qualified surgeon.

Lisa - posted on 08/30/2017

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My son has nothing wrong mentally or physically besides his shaft he says he feels more comfortable when I measure it as much as I told him that it's the same thing

Lisa - posted on 08/30/2017

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Dove, I respect what you are saying I've had this talk with him I've thought about kicking him out but I'd have nobody left , he is my son and I accept and love him sure it might appeal weird or different to you two, but everybody is different and every family is different there's nothing I won't ever do for my son . The last advice I got from a doctor when he was younger measure it regularly so yeah we are very open and are really close sorry if I offended you by saying that about your children I just wish you could see things from my perspective I apologize

Lisa - posted on 08/30/2017

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Sarah and dove I know you two are kind spirited and I appreciate what you said but I'm looking for support rather than your advice thank-you

Lisa - posted on 08/30/2017

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As a caring mother I reached out for help for my son's abnormality I respect what both of you have to say we used to have medical insurance but we lost it and don't have it anymore, and going back to that comment yes you did catch me in a bit of a white lie yes but I was skeptic about the massage until somebody told me it was a good idea, I tried to see if someone can perform this and show results I am not a troll I'm a real mother you can even see my picture on my profile me and my son are slot closer than you and your children were all we have so please stop with the comments I see your point of view but just respect mine thank-you

Sarah - posted on 08/30/2017

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Interesting, you posted on another page that "a little massage fixed it right up".
http://www.circleofmoms.com/welcome-circ...
Seriously? A home remedy to fix your 18yo son's penis? If he is having issues with his penis, he should consult a urologist. He may have Peyronie's disease or it may be a normal condition. Only a surgeon can tell you if surgery would damage his penis and why on earth would insurance not cover a medically necessary procedure?

Lisa - posted on 08/30/2017

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OK dove sorry you feel that way but I am a caring mother and just want my son to have a normal life, I understand how u feel but next time If you can't contribute to helping advice don't comment at all please and thank-you

Lisa - posted on 08/30/2017

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Thank-you for your opinion dove but me and my son have a very open relationship and trust one another with everything we don't hide secrets , if he needs anything I always will help because I am his mother and I love him . People say your truly an adult at 18 but truly your not he has alot of growing up to do still he's not very independent but I do my best to guide him . I try and stay away from matters like this but when he said there truly was a problem I had to see for myself. Surgery is too expensive and will be rather harmful to his penis in the long run, do you have any idea how he got this abnormally big? Or any idea on how to fix the bend?

Lisa - posted on 08/30/2017

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The last time I measured him it was 13 and half inches fully erect and actually 5 and a half inches wide , those are the exact measurements for anybody who's curious and the shape takes a full on J almost I'm very worried about it once we get rid of the bend than I'll be less worried but still concerned about his size

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