Linda - posted on 05/20/2016 ( 9 moms have responded )
So my step son is four, and he is spending the night for the first time with me and my husband in our home. Our plan was to let him sleep with us since it is a new surrounding and I want him to feel safe, but his mother said she does not allow that at home and not to do it. I cannot tell if this is a tug-of-war (me not wanting to abide by her rules) or if I feel that strongly about him feeling safe and loved in my house. I am too close to the situation to be able to say for certain one way or the other but for whatever reason I am upset about this. I don't want to ignore her demands since it will determine how often we get him, but I don't want him to feel scared sleeping in a new house for the first time. When he comes here I want him to feel safe and loved, not afraid. WHAT WOULD YOU DO? Maybe a conversation with her letting her know why I want him to sleep with us the first night?