My stepdaughter is mean to our animals and it scares me. Anyone dealt with this at all? If so can you give me some advice because I don't know what to do.


Kristi - posted on 07/13/2012




How old is she and what is she doing to them? How long/often has/does she mistreat them? My friend's son was like that when he was younger. He pulled on their ears and tails, then he started kicking them. Next he moved on to rabbits, squirrels, etc. On about 5th or 6th grade he moved on to people. Now he is going into 8th grade and is constantly picking fights. He has serious anger issues, due to his "father's" abandonment, his father was also very abusive to women, including my friend and the boy saw most of it. Kids (in elementary school) picked on him because of his size. So now he gets them before they get him, so to speak. How long ago did her parents get divorced, how long have you guys been married, does mom have a new relationship? Could she be acting out because of the new family dynamics? (if they are new) What about being bullied at school or maybe a boyfriend problem? Is she young enough where this might just be a little phase or maybe needs reminding about how to treat pets? Have you noticed other changes in her behavior? Have you talked to her about this? I'm asking more questions instead of offering you suggestions. These are just questions for you to think about, maybe giving you an idea where to start.

If you are more than concerned though, you might want to call a therapist and get his/her opinion. If you feel the need to do so, be sure to see someone who specializes in children. If you and the therapist think your stepdaughter does need counselling, it's important to find someone she can connect with. My daughter needed counselling and it tooks us 3 tries to find the right one. If she can't relate, she is not going to say much. Once we found the right fit for my daughter, she was more cooperative about going and she began to open up quite a bit. I'm sorry, I wish I had better recommendations. But, this is a great place to look for support and advice. Give it a few days and I'm sure other moms will be able to offer you some more ideas from personal experience, mine is just second hand.

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