My stupid hubby keeps teasing my five year old daughter.

Shannintipton - posted on 08/21/2011 ( 24 moms have responded )

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I have asked this questions a few times. He teases her until she cries. He does it all the time. My 8 year son is doing it now too. I have asked him to stop. I have told him to stop. I have threatened him with if you keep doing that I wont ......what ever he want me to do for that day. I is really pissing me off. I have told him it is bad for her self esteem. After he stops it takes me at least twenty minutes to calm her down. Any suggestions short of murder would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

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Krista - posted on 08/21/2011

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I'd videotape him the next time he does it. Play it for him and ask, "Is this how you want your daughter to remember you? As someone who made her cry?"

For bonus points, play the video at the next big family gathering.

Jenn - posted on 08/21/2011

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He is totally an immature ASS. How would he feel if anyone else treated your daughter that way?? All he is teaching her is that it is her fault she gets teased and that she should feel guilty when the one who teases gets his feelings hurt! Gah. That pisses me off!! Girls have a small window of time that we parents can help them build a foundation of confidence and security with themselves. Your husband is just knocking her ability to have those strengths.

On a lighter note...I have what we call "salon night" where my girls get their hair washed in the sink. They love it and it saves my back!

Katherine - posted on 08/21/2011

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I wonder what he would do if someone picked on her at school? Tell them to go for it?

Katherine - posted on 08/21/2011

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You should tell everyone! What a slime ball. And now he's "asleep?" I hate that, when you have back problems and no one helps you.

Katherine - posted on 08/21/2011

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Kick his ass out!!!! Tell him to go somewhere until he can grow up.

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Shannintipton - posted on 08/21/2011

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For the moment he is acting like he is sorry. He tried talking to Tarah about what he did and that it was wrong. But what I see is that he also teases her as a way to get to me. Real mature. I talked to his mom and sister about it and this time they did not throw in there stupid comment about how he has always been that way. They were actually supportive. So maybe that will help a little. I dont know, only time will tell. He did seem genuinely sorry this time which he had never been in the past. Hopefully I am getting threw to him. I am still pissed. Thank you all very much for listening. I was sooooo mad I didnt know what to do with myself. It was helpful to let it out.

Shannintipton - posted on 08/21/2011

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Believe it or not he is getting better but that is still not good enough. He is all over the place. He started crying because we got into a huge fight. I did not back down. . . right away. He was crying and I said well that is what Tarah feels like and walked away. Then he got mad and tried to blame me. I told him to fuck off and pointed out that was rediculous. He got mad and then he started coming around. But there is a lot more but I dont want to bore you anymore than I already have. lol. But I am far from threw of scolding him. Thank you everyone for letting me vent and for the great ideas. You guys are great. :)

Lissa - posted on 08/21/2011

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Shannin you have talked about this before, what did you do with that advice? Are you actually laying down the law about it and following through?

Katherine - posted on 08/21/2011

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Poor kid. Now she's the one traumatized trying to make HIM feel better. Disgusting. That's how forgiving and innocent they are :(

Shannintipton - posted on 08/21/2011

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Tarah is trying to may Mark feel better. I hope that makes him feel worse.

Shannintipton - posted on 08/21/2011

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I will bring that up.....next time I talk to him. That is a great example. Thanks

Shannintipton - posted on 08/21/2011

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I just told Mark. That is how Tarah feels when you tease her and walk or hobbled away. I dont want to give in. I hate when he pulls this shit.

Shannintipton - posted on 08/21/2011

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Well my son came in and told me dad needs me. I said no he doesnt he is asleep. He told no he is crying. So now Mark is crying. WTF. GRRRRRRRRRRR

Shannintipton - posted on 08/21/2011

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So I tell his friends and co workers. I should tell MY parents. They think he is a God.

Shannintipton - posted on 08/21/2011

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You know what you may have been kidding but I think that is a great idea. I have brought up the fact to HIS family telling them what he does. All they say is that he has always been like that. WTF.

Shannintipton - posted on 08/21/2011

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He is asleep now. I am giving the kids baths and screws up my back washing Tarah's hair. Screw him. He HAS to go to his moms. Its a law or something. So me and Tarah will just hang out. Thanks for letting me rant.

Shannintipton - posted on 08/21/2011

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I am so pissed right now. We were suppose to do a bunch of shit and go to his mommy's tonight. Fuck if I am going now. And Tarah is staying with me. ASS

Shannintipton - posted on 08/21/2011

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We just got into a huge fight. Damn he is doing it again. What an ASSHOLE. He is just an ass on so many levels right now. GRRRRRRR.

Katherine - posted on 08/21/2011

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That's unreal. I would keep his butt away from her. Take him to counseling because obviously he doesn't get it!!!
That is so damn sad that he picks on her that way.

Shannintipton - posted on 08/21/2011

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It pisses me off to no end. Technically he is a grown man but he acts like a total fuck nut. And yes it is sad. We have now been fighting all day because of it. I mean is it really worth it. He thinks it is funny and he is fucking her up and my son and causing major problems that is now going to be dragged over to his moms for dinner tonight. What a fucking idiot. Sorry for the rant.

Kate CP - posted on 08/21/2011

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Make him pay for her therapy sessions she's going to need. Get him counseling, too. He's a grown fucking man bullying a 5 year old girl. That's just sad.

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