My teenage daughter is pregnant and wants to move out, help?

Cassie - posted on 03/09/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My oldest daughter is 16 and she's almost 5 months pregnant. She chose to keep the kid, which was devastating. But it was her choice not mine. She wants to move out with her boyfriend who's almost (18) but I disagree with it. Her boyfriend doesn't have his life together, dropped out of high school, and doesn't even have a job. My daughter works after school. But they don't have enough money for their baby, let alone their own place. I want what's best for my daughter just like any other parent. It's her responsibility to make her own choices when it comes to her baby. But I'm still her mother. I'm the one that's going to be pitching in for the expenses of the baby, so I should have a say in it.

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Maria Eugenia - posted on 03/09/2015

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It's kind of a tricky matter. When you're 16 you think you know everything and that your parents are just old fashioned and don't "get you", so trying to be rational and intelligent about it might not work, but you can give it a try. Work on a presentation where you point out an estimate on how much money she will have to spend on rent, food, utilities, diapers, savings, gas, transportation if she doesn't have a car, etc and compare it to how much she earns a month. Tell her that she should be a SMART mom and at least try to get her boyfriend to find a decent job before she decides to move out. Tell her it's very VERY complicated to sustain a household on one paycheck (specially the paycheck of a 16 yrd old who works after school, which i'm sure is not quite as juicy as one would expect a paycheck to be after college, etc etc)

Maybe take her to a shelter or something where women can share experiences with her, maybe if she hears it from someone who is younger and isnt her mom she will listen (this sucks i know, to think she might take strangers advice over yours) but it might work!

Best of luck to all of you, and at least the baby has a grandmother who is smart and will be able to advice his mother through the tough years of teen immaturity.

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