My teenager wants everything !


♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/20/2013




Is it one of those "everyone else has/does it" things?

If so, stand your ground. No one gets EVERYTHING handed to them, and if they do, they're spoilt rotten brats from the get go.

Anything outside of necessity can be obtained the same way you and I do: WORK for it. Whether that's doing chores, etc at home, or actually getting out and getting a job, hold her responsible for it.


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/20/2013




Danicia, your mom could be my sister...LOL...I do that to my kid as my best horrible imitation of the Rolling stones

Danicia - posted on 09/20/2013




when my teen siblings whine about not getting something my mom sings that song "you can't always get what you want!" (most annoying when you are the teen but so true!). if we wanted something, we were told to work for it. if it was something outrageous (like an unsupervised weekend vacation with friends) we were told to suck it up and move on, can't get your way all the time. The "real world" doesn't let you have everything you want scotch free so why should parents set that standard for their kids?

Jane - posted on 09/20/2013




Sounds about right :)

Our preteens have to work doing additional chores on top of regular chores if they want to save up for something that is a non-essential. They can offer to do chores for relatives and neighbors too. If they have to work for it, they tend to stop asking for quite so much. If your teen is old enough for a part time job, sounds like the way to go. Good way to teach them responsibility and the value of money too. Good luck - I think we all face this with our kids.

We also have let our kids sell their old toys and equipment, if they wanted something new (the latest or greatest). We supervise, but at yard sales, etc. it's a great way for them to learn they have to get rid of stuff if they want new things.

Michelle - posted on 09/20/2013




Like the others have said, if they want everything then they get a job to pay for everything!

Gena - posted on 09/20/2013




You cant get everything in life,if you want something you have to work for it..thats the way life is.In all diferent kind of ways,you must earn trust and respect you must work for money to buy the newest playstation and you must learn that a no is a no. If your teen wants something he/she must work for it and learn to accept a no.

Ev - posted on 09/19/2013




Tell them no. They need to learn they can not have all that they see. Start teaching them that if they want something bad enough they have to earn it.

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