My Toddler running across the parking lot alone

Gretchen - posted on 11/20/2017 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Over the weekend my 2 children (ages 1 and 3) and my husband & I were out to dinner. My husband went to pay for the check and my 3 year old was in the game room area playing with the games ( by the entering and exiting doors). I told my husband I am taking our 1 year old and were going to start the car. He said ok. I told him our 3 year old is in the game room area keep an eye on her, he said ok. Well, I made it to the car and buckled my one year old i n her seat, I then hear our 3 year old come running by herself across the parking lot to me. Biggest scare I ever had. Her dad did not realize she had slipped through the group of people who was exiting. My husband told me she is fine, not hurt so stop worrying about it. I have came to the conclusion of telling myself "welcome to motherhood this will probably not be the last time I have something freak me out. It is really just so scary, what are others experiences? of being freaked out?

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Sarah - posted on 11/28/2017

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Thankfully nothing awful happened, I do know what you mean by it stays stuck in your head and you continually play out the "what ifs" that could have happened; what if she'd been hit, what if, she'd been grabbed. I get that. My son was maybe 20 months and we live on a cul-de-sac; I was on the phone and it was summer time. We were out front and he was toddling about on the driveway and sidewalk. Before I knew it he had followed the sidewalk around the curve and walked right behind my neighbor's car as she was backing up! Thankfully she saw just a wisp of his head and stopped. I was sick over that for ages! Yes, I should have been more diligent, I should have been walking with him and I am very lucky that nothing did happen to him. My kids are 21, 18, 16 and 13 now and thankfully we have not had to face any huge tragedies. Parenting is scary and life is full of risk; you just do the best you can.

Ev - posted on 11/27/2017

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It does not make a difference if the game room and register were at opposite ends of the building. You never ever leave a 3 year old out of your site in public places. Someone could have taken off with her. She might have snuck out and gone another direction and gotten hit by a car. Do not assume because you told dad she was in the game area that he was paying full attention to your words and where she was. If he was taking care of paying for meal, you should have taken her with you or just waited on him or stayed in the game area with her. Even if he was aware, his attention was elsewhere. I never left my kids 5 feet away from me that young and then directed attention elsewhere unless I was sure dad or the other adult was aware of their presence. I see way too many parents now a days that go into a store and the toddlers and preschool age kids are trailing behind in the parking lot with no one watching them or even in the store and no one is watching them. And that is considered safe? My daughter has a 3 and a 5 and she either takes them both with her or she makes sure dad has them. They are not allowed to walk off to some other area a few feet away like that.

Gretchen - posted on 11/27/2017

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I would say the game room and where her dad was standing is approximately 5 feet away from each other.

Gretchen - posted on 11/27/2017

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Her dad knew she was in the game room which is right by the check out area. The cashier area is in the same area as the games. I did not leave her! Her dad knew .

Ev - posted on 11/21/2017

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What I do not understand is why you left her unattended in the game room to begin with?

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