My two kids

Angelita C - posted on 01/04/2016 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I have two kids..the father is on childsupport..on his weekend he took my kids before they stared school..he kept them. From me up until last month I started talking to only my daughter..I have called the police I have have police reports that told me to file a motion in court..later on my boyfriend said that by law he could not keep them from me unless decided by court...I need to know what else can I do..I was Alain told to go pick up my kids but they have moved and I don't know where. The father has no kind of communication with me..I'm lost I have no idea what to do anymore ..

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Raye - posted on 01/05/2016

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Police normally can't get involved with custody issues. It's not a criminal matter, but a civil one that must go through the courts. You've been told by the police that you have to take it to court to get your kids back. Your boyfriend told you it needs to be decided in court. And now we're telling you that you have to go to court to get it straightened out. Get a lawyer. Go to court.

If the father moved, and left a forwarding address with the post office, all you have to do is write a letter to the father asking for him to contact you regarding the kids (just in case the letter is actually delivered, which it shouldn't be), then type his last known address on the envelope with "Return Service Requested" two spaces above it, and type your address only (no name) in the return address area, then mail the letter. In about a week, you should get the letter back with a yellow sticker that shows the new address, or "unable to forward" if he left no forwarding address.

Raye - posted on 01/13/2016

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I heard a disturbing story once that demonstrates that police are NO HELP in custody matters. I tried to find a link to the story, and I can't find it.. so I'll try to summarize as best as I can remember...

A father took off with his three daughters, without their mother's consent, while they were playing in the yard. So, she called the police and told them her suspicion that their father had taken them. They would not help her. She urged police to help since the father had been suicidal, and she had a restraining order against him. They said no. They said the girls were with their father so there was nothing else they could do. Later, the father called, confirmed the girls were with him, and told the mother he took them to an amusement park, and would bring them back when he was ready. The mother urged cops to find him at the amusement park and bring her girls back. They said no. Hours later he still hadn't returned them. Around 3am (if memory serves), he showed up and fired shots at the police station. Police returned fire, killing him. The girls were found dead in his truck, each having been shot by their father a few hours before he arrived at the station and committed "suicide by cop". Had the police intervened when he called from the park, they may have been able to find him and the girls, and keep this tragedy from happening. The mother then sued the police and LOST.

I'm not saying that your ex would kill his children. I'm just saying that there is precedent that cops do not have to "protect and serve". They consider custody a civil matter, not criminal, and so police can't/won't do anything.

Keep trying to get the courts to help you get them back. It's the only legal way to do it. If you find where he lives and go to try to get the kids from him, ask the police if they will go to "keep the peace", but if not, then find someone else to go with you to be a witness and to possibly reduce risk to you and the kids.

American - posted on 01/10/2016

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Have you tried social media? Maybe post pictures of the kids and say they have been kidnapped (because he he violated the court order then he kidnapped them) and see if you can find them that way. Maybe a little Facebook stalking could help you. They located my nephews mom through Facebook posting.

Jodi - posted on 01/10/2016

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It's actually a pretty cut and dried case, really. He has violated the court order regarding his visitation and given he has taken them and you can't locate him, you can easily file for contempt and for change of the orders. I know you don't know where he is but don't let that stop you from filing these orders, because if you do, once you get them back, you won't be breaching orders by not allowing him to take them again. Definitely talk to a lawyer, but you will need to go through the legal system to get this done.

Sarah - posted on 01/04/2016

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When you are a single parent you must have a legal court order that outlines your custody and visitation arrangement. The father of these kids has just as much right to parent them as you do, unless a judge says otherwise. If you have no court order, then that is exactly where you need to start. As far as finding him, you may have luck locating him with the help of the court. If he gets any sort of government assistance or has filed a tax return.

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Angelita C - posted on 01/14/2016

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Raye Ramsey..wow ive never heard of that story ..breaks my heart..I am still looking and trying to find ways I do have an attorney and paper work is in progress...😊...

Angelita C - posted on 01/13/2016

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I've tried social media..nothing I do have his face book but he has nothing on there about where they stay now..the cops said he is not kidnapping them unless he has a reason by court not to have them...ive been trying to contact my daughter..but she has not yet responded...I m filing the motion in court next week they said it's going to take a while..but I shall see how this goes..thank you everybody for your tips and advice..it really helped me ...😊

Dove - posted on 01/10/2016

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The police told you to file a motion in court... did you? It is good to have a lawyer to help you, but you CAN file motions in court w/out one.

Does the father have any friends or family that you are in contact with? Trying to locate him through social media is a good idea.

Angelita C - posted on 01/10/2016

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I do have a court order..he gets the kids everyother weekend..holidays summer time or springbreak sometimes..that's it ..now the cops did say that I can go pick up my kids whenever if I knew where the was..but Then What are the odds of him taking them again...I don't know to many lawyers "good lawyers" and that cost to much

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