my two sons married bipolar girls.very mean tearing family apart they hate me.all I've done was be as kind as I could be.and kept my mouth shout. they get mad at the slightest thing,twist it then scream at me in a rage. I have taken it for 10yre. with one and 6yrs.with the other.. the girls hare each other. my sons are not close anymore.they all stay away not talking,or visiting. miss my grandchildren so much.love them deeply. all I do is cry,its making me sick. and I feel without my sons and there family's,there is nothing to live for. I have been having feeling of ending my life,cause it hurts so bad. life is so tough. been through a lot already, and can't anymore. any advice or help would be greatly appreciated.

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Amy - posted on 11/27/2014

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I would probably reflect on your personal actions rather then theirs, more then likely you are the issue not them since neither have relationships with you and your sons no longer have a relationship with you. You're also the one contemplating suicide, I suggest you seek professional help for yourself. Maybe once they see you trying to help yourself theyll come back around.

Jasmine - posted on 11/26/2014

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If someone was calling me bi polar I'm sure I would stay away too. For your son taking her side is just his way of showing her that she means alot to him enough to not let you get in the way with the disrespectful name calling. I'm sure that there was a situation or a couple you might have offended the girls to where they want to stay away. Nobody is just going to not want to be around some one. Maybe give them a call go out for lunch, settle your issuses. Sounds like you might be jelous, but it looks like if you want to have a relationship with your son's and grandchildren than you need to have one with the girls as well.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 11/25/2014

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Are you personally diagnosing your in-laws, or is this truly a medical condition that you've been let in on?

Either way, FIND SOMETHING to do with your time. Volunteer. Get into a foster grandparents program...there's a plethora of opportunities out there.

I've found that the dear MILs that bitch about how horrible their DILs are generally have a few issues of their own...

Incidentally, my MIL is awesome, and we spend more time together than I do with my own mother.

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Meagan - posted on 11/25/2014

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I am a stay at home mom to a 2 and a hlf year old boy. And i suffer if bi polar mood disorder. I have no relationship with my mother inlaw. Due to miscommunication and lack of knowledge from her side. My son is growing up not knowing his dads side of the family. They live 5mins away, whereas my parents live 6hours away. I can only speak for myself and frm personal experience. I hav no friends and no support. Id welcome any form of contact from my mother inlaw. Bt coz i suffer of a mood disorder she has made no attempt to come c her son or grandson. I suggest u do all u can to b ther for ur sons and grandkids! Do not let ur inlaws ruin ur relationship with ur flesh and blood. Ur grandkida deserve all the love they can get!!! And ther is no beta love than that that of a granma!! Dnt let them turn this round on u and say u neva made effort. Dnt let u grandkida grow up nt knwing u!!! Iv msgd my mother inlaw sent her pics if my son iv kpt her up to date with everything. She does not reply. It hurts me tremendously that her son and grandson are being punished for my mood disorder. So u dont let ur daughers inlaw punish ur grankids. Do not giv them that power. And if all else fails, u can c a social worker and hav them arrange something so that u can hav access to those kids. Its YOUR RITE JUST AS MUCH AS IT IS THE KIDS RITE! Try to undastnd ur daughters inlaw as well, if u dnt, hav them xplain to u. I knw all i reali want jus want is ppl to undastand me. And to b supportive. It doea gt tricky as ur way of showing love and support mite not b wat she/they want or need. And thats wher communication and comprimising comes in. U as the adults hav to sit down with no kids present and come up with a plan and a set routine. Lol, routine is all that keeps my buzy head and mood in place. And show mutual respect. I SUFFER OF BI POLAR MOOD DISORDER,BUT I AM NOT BI POLAR MOOD DISORDER.

Meagan - posted on 11/25/2014

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Wat do u think or feel u can do to better/improve the situation? Perhaps start by educating urself more on bi polar mood disorder?

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