Cherry - posted on 09/23/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )
I am the new one for this group. I am a breastfeeding mother and my baby girl is 1year and 4months age.
I am really upset with my MIL. She is so selfish. She thinks always for her benefit. She is sometimes nice but sometimes difficult to understand. She comes from broken family. My husband comes too. My husband also know his mother's manner. But he feels his mother as pity and lonely. She always treats me as a queen. But I am not the one who lives as housewife and I am working mom. So, all of my knowledge that she can't overcome.
One thing I was upset is for my baby.
I hire a baby nurse to take care my baby since my baby was 2 months old child.
But she really treat badly all nurse that I hired. I change and change nurse now total 11 nurse that I faced.
She loves my baby that absolutely I believe. But she wants my baby with her manner. She always treat my baby with worry. "Don't do it, Don't go it" that I hated words (coz, I heard every times). And also many instruction she gave to my baby. "Do like that, Don't do like that" (Oh......... I'm so upset).
I want my baby girl with her own creation. No need to give many instruction. So, I always covered in front of my baby. "Do yourself, Don't worry" that my words.
As you know, all babies had their own manners and own creation.
I don't want my MIL instruction and worries to my baby.
If she do continuously that will be my baby without own thinking. (i.e, I also know that she treated my husband same that kinds and my husband also can't decide by himself still now).
I'm working mom, so, I leave my baby with home nurse at home (actually, that my MIL home).
So, I heard that my MIL instruct to my baby from home nurse. Home nurse also knows that my MIL is over worrier. But she can't treat her badly. Coz, she always told that "that's my home, live my rules".
Oh Oh........ how upset that........
To live only, that couldn't be. Coz, my husband and me still work.
BTW, thanks for my feeling as sharing to you and hope that I got some advise from you.
Thanks all mom.