my useless ex

Camille - posted on 07/29/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My daughter just turned 9 and doesn't remember ever seeing her biological father. We have a court order for child support but he gets away with not paying it by living in Florida and we live in Alabama. I have talked to DHR in both states and a lawyer here and he says there's nothing legally I. Can do. So my next step will be to try and strip. Him of those last parental rights. This will be to protect my daughter in case anything were to happen to me.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/30/2014

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You designate a legal guardian for her in the event of your demise, and in this case, the designated legal guardian will be your parents.

Dove - posted on 07/30/2014

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Your reasoning certainly makes sense to ME as a single mom w/ an uninvolved ex. I just call it my 'life insurance policy' that I am not allowed to die until my youngest turns 18... because I already know in MY state... there is nothing I can do about it. lol Good luck!

Camille - posted on 07/29/2014

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The only reason that I was thinking about stripping him of those rights was that I was concerned about if anything were to happen to me. This seemed like the most rock solid way to assure that my daughter would be able to stay with her grandparents since grandparent rights are non existent.

Dove - posted on 07/29/2014

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Many courts will not strip even the most deadbeat of father of their rights unless their is another man willing to step in and adopt the child.

If he is unemployed or working under the table... there really ISN'T anything you can do to get him to pay support. Why not just forget he exists and carry on w/ your life?

You can certainly spend the time and money to see if you CAN get his rights removed, of course, but I wouldn't think it would be worth the hassle for a man that isn't involved and isn't a threat.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/29/2014

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You'll still need to go through the courts, and he'll still be given an opportunity to respond and refuse.

You CAN get support enforced across state lines, my husband's was, and it wasn't that big of a deal.

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