My x husband has caused our three children to alienate me from their lives. I have only spoken to our children a couple of times last August , and recently they had told the GAL that they do not want to be part of my life. Do I let them go and hope things will change when they are adults or do I get an order from the judge to mandate my parenting rights?..

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Terrie Lynn - posted on 05/29/2014

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This is my orders for my decree that was set on February 11, 2014. Chris is granted full custody of our three children. My visitation was suspended until I have completed dialectal behavior therapy ( can take up to six months) or the DBT therapist gives the judge written permission to resume with re unification therapy to reunite the severed relationship with me and my children. Carter does not have to participate if he does not want to. Chris also can have me at anytime under go a hair chemical test or urine at Minnesota monitoring any time he feels fit. Last year I ;proved that I was not using any drugs nor alcohol by undergoing a hair chemical test that can detect many drugs as far back as three months along with a urine drug screen at his request. He claimed and
defamed my reputation by telling all my family and friends that I was doing a drug called meth. Even though, I have a hair follicle test and 7 urine tests that show negative for
any mood altering drugs the courts still took his word on everything that he said. It was like I was numbered even before the judge knew me; the decision was already made. And because the courts turned a blind eye, my children are suffering emotionally, psychologically, and in this case physically when their symptoms turn into headaches, stomach aches, loss of memory and this is only some of the mild effects that PAS parent alienation syndrome has caused children to develop.

Terrie Lynn - posted on 05/29/2014

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I am a 42 year old mother of three children and a wife for 20 years. I am family orientated and loved to entertain parties. I volunteered in many areas of my children's lives that included in the school classroom, church where needed, coached sports, ect. through out the years my husband and I grew apart. I became lonely when I realized that my children were growing up and did not need me as much anymore. I complained to Chris that we needed to find things in common, but his depression became worse. I started to drink at night when every one went to bed and started to go socializing at night. My husband became more controlling than normal as he tried to get me to stop the behavior that he did not want me to do. I was not given keys to anything that we owned and never thought of this as not normal. I would find hidden bank accounts in his name and secret assets that I was not aware of. If i brought this up he would treat me as his daughter, and I would let it go to keep peace. After all, I was a stay at home mom with three beautiful kids who lived in a middle class society. What else could i want? I wanted a relationship that was intimate, someone I could talk to and who took the time to understand me. I shared this with my assistant coach in the year of 2011 one night over drinks and conversation. He was a 60 year old man where I thought I was safe to be with. This soon became an affair and my drinking increased due to the guilt and shame that came with it. It lasted for 1 year and picked up the summer after that. Chris blamed it on my drinking and told me that I was going to Hazelden treatment center or he was going to divorce me. He further bullied me into going by involving our children in our problems. He asked the children to go to school and tell everyone that I was having an affair and with who. He would bad mouth me in front of the kids and soon the children lost respect for me, On mothers day of 2012, my son for the first time started to call me names and joined Chris on the name calling and bashing. Chris would say things out loud like your mother has a mental problem. She can be very dangerous person so don't be by yourself with her in the same room. Carter would start to laugh, and say things back to Chris like yeah, and she is going to end up in a loony house for ever. It was devastating to hear this from your own son and I asked them to stop. When they did not I called the police for help. Soon after I was arrested for domestic assault because Carter told them that I started to hit him and he does not know why. This was only the beginning of the traumatic events that are to follow. I soon realized that I was living every parents worst nightmare; parent alienation.

Terrie Lynn - posted on 05/29/2014

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yes, your right. This is my first time asking a question and I thought I was just to do just that and then explain later. I will do my best to give you an understanding of my story. I came home on June 6th to an empty house and soon realized that my 12 year old twins, and my 14 year old son were not planning on coming back. My husband took our three children to his parents and told them that I was going to kidnap them and take them away from their family and friends. I reported them missing and shortly after the police called me back to report that he took the kids because he was afraid I was going to hurt our children or himself. I was told that I could not see the kids as long as the other custodial parent was with them and the children did not want to see me. two days later, Chris asked if we could talk about everything going on. As soon as i met him, I was served divorce papers and he watched my reaction with a smile on his face.

Michelle - posted on 05/29/2014

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Do you have orders in place at the moment? Why are the children with their Dad?
You really need to give us some more information for us to really be able to help. I feel a lot of the story is missing.

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