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Lacye - posted on 12/06/2012

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That's the thing though, what if he doesn't want to believe in God anymore. You can't just force a person to believe in the same thing as you. What if he tells you that he refuses to believe in the same thing as you? Are you just going to stay separated from him for the rest of your life. To not allow you or him to move on? That's the point I'm getting at.



As for protecting your children from those views, your children must live extremely sheltered life if they have never heard those theories before. And that's all it is, a theory. That is all religion is. Nobody has any proof that any of these things exist. That's why it is called faith. You have faith that you are right.



I'm not trying to be obtuse because in all honesty, I'm a Christian as well. But if you can't accept your husband for what he believes in now, then separation is not going to change that. He had a change of heart. It happens. I know that you love him but that's not going to change his mind if he doesn't want it to. And when the kids go to see him, he will just tell them while they are with him anyways.

Lacye - posted on 12/06/2012

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Just explain to your children that some people believe that there is life on other planets although it has never been proven.



You need to talk to your husband though. Both of you need to sit down and agree to allow the children to find what they want to believe in themselves. That way, neither one of you will get your feelings hurt if the children decide they want to believe in your religion or his lack of it. That is basically what my husband and I do. We have decided that we will tell our children what we believe in and essentially allow them to make the decision on their own.



I don't see why you are willing to separate from your husband but you are not willing to divorce him. If you are willing to do one, be prepared for the other because it's only a matter of time after that it will happen. Not trying to be mean or anything, just being honest.

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You can seperate to get space and let him work through it while protecting the kids with these views. I love him, I guess you have to be in my shoes to see the whole thing a brief paragraph can't give you a look at our 10 years and now history. Thanks for trying to help.

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What I'm saying is that he says he denounces God, heaven, hell, the bible that it is not true. Now with that the other views are coming in Big Bang, evolution and aliens. This is coming from a man whom was deeply involved with church and wanted to go into church planting, he fell some where

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/06/2012

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Well, you may have your beliefs, and others can have theirs. Your husband has not changed, he has just told you who he is. Love him for who he is. Why shouldn't he be able to believe what he wants? Many people believe there is life on other planets. Many believe their is a God. There is no proof of either. Just blind faith. Science is a big part of life, and if you both work as a team, you can teach your children about both. But, there is going to need to be compromise. Open your mind to his beliefs. He has clearly lived yours for so long.

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I am a born again christian and I thought my husband was too. We have 3 elementary age kids. I am very stedfast in my faith he all these years told me he was saved. But I had questioned it but he was on fire at one point.

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