Naming a baby

Happie - posted on 01/20/2012 ( 41 moms have responded )

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When is the right time to name a baby,b4 birth or after giving birth..My boyfriend thinks the right time to cme up with a baby name is after the baby is born bt i named my baby right after knowing i ws prgnant.(7 months pregnat nw )

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Kristie - posted on 01/21/2012

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I am a huge believer in meanings of names and that every time you say a name, you are speaking that meaning over that person. I also believe in praying over & talking to your baby while in the womb. Therefore, I definitely think a name is needed before birth. Not in haste though, in the prayerful mindset, pray about the right name and God will lead you in the right direction at the right time!

Katy - posted on 01/20/2012

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We had names picked out before our girls were born. We had boy and girl names picked. We found out what we were having before hand and it's nice to refer to the baby by that name. With our second, we were still deciding on a middle name while I was in labor in the hospital. Our second girl's name was actually a backup for our first and it fits her perfectly!

Sherri - posted on 01/20/2012

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Before in my opinion. I love to refer to the baby by his name in the womb. I love to talk to him as if he is already here. We have many conversations and I could never not name them before they arrived. I am pregnant with #4 right now and he has had his name since I was 13wks pregnant and will already know when he enters into the world his name since he has heard me calling him by it for so very long.

Denikka - posted on 01/20/2012

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I started looking at names as soon as I found out that I was pregnant with my first. I decided on 2 names (1girl/1boy), even though I was told that I was having a boy :P I figured I'd be prepared, just in case.

With my second, I already had my girl name picked out (same one I had chosen for my first pregnancy), so I went and found another boy name that I liked.



At this point, I'm not pregnant or thinking about trying any time soon :P but I have my next set of boy/girl names already picked out (the boy name from my second pregnancy, and a girl name that I randomly found during my pregnancy that I liked, but wasn't quite right for that child).

I think it's good to narrow the list down, but be prepared to be flexible. Sometimes things don't turn out how you expect them to; whether the child isn't the gender you were expecting, or the name just doesn't fit the kid :)

Tara - posted on 01/20/2012

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We had names picked out well before either of our daughters were born. We picked out both boy and girl names (since we didn't know the sex of the babies) and had a couple of alternate names just in case our first picks didn't seem to fit.



I think it is a personal choice but we wanted to have names already picked out before they were born. Also, you have to have named the baby before you can leave the hospital (at least in most places).

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Keri - posted on 01/25/2012

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If you have a name you like, use it. Some people just DON'T KNOW what they want until the baby arrives and they think "He looks like a Joseph, doesn't he?" or "She looks like an Isabella, doesn't she?" We had names picked out before our son was born (and we kept his sex a "surpise") so we didn't even know which name it would be! The name you've picked may not "fit" once you see him or her. Maybe since you already have a name in mind, that can be the first name and your boyfriend can choose the baby's middle name.

Suzy - posted on 01/24/2012

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Oh yes... I find it to be a very personal thing that everyone has a story about and usually atrong feelings behind. Go with your gut!

Suzy - posted on 01/24/2012

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We always said "you don't go to the pound and look for a Spot or a Rover, you wait until you find the dog then name him by his personality." We felt the same about our kids. We had a short list of names but waited to meet them before deciding. Neither of our son's names were on the list we prepared. In the end, I have decided that you shouldn't have to name a child until they are old enough to get into mischief. At 8 months my youngest got into something and the name I scolded him with is not the one on his Birth Certificate (it's his first name and his dad's middle name.) Ever since then it is what I call him. I do wish I had taken advantage of changing the name before the first birthday (our hospital would have done it for juat $25.). Now I will have to go to court and pay considerably more to fix his name.



One other thing... I let people rush me into ning my youngest and really wish I had respected mine and my husband's choice more instead of listening to Granddad and Grand Aunt.

Lee Ann - posted on 01/24/2012

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I agree with some of the other ladies, i think at least having an idea of what you both like or agree on would be helpful before you have your little one....good luck dear

Pamela - posted on 01/23/2012

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Whenever you feel that you have found the correct name. Some parents do not name their children before or at birth, but rather when the correct name comes to them.



I have done it both ways, and with my last child I waited until he was born and received his name from a friend who chose it in the Hawaiian way of naming children.



It's really up to you. Trust your intuition!!!

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My first pregnancy I had a feeling it was going to be a boy. All the names that I could think about were boy names. No girl names came up. I and my ex-husband could not agree to names so we used both names. I wanted Jean and he chose Deacan so we called him JD (Jean-Deacan) and that was before he was born. My second baby’s name I chose long before I was pregnant. I said if I ever got pregnant with a little girl I will call her Sheldean. So it happened that I got blessed with a little girl.

Tinker1987 - posted on 01/22/2012

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We had our boy name picked out 2 years before the baby was even concieved and that is his name today.. its perfect for him,and i love it and have no regrets,if your having troubles choosing,you or your partner then its best to wait until baby is born but me and my fiance agreed on this name long long ago.I also believe its best to have names picked or at least almost picked before the hospital,when your in the hospital do you really have much time to think it over and love it,with nurses coming and going and other visitors,id rather have it all done before the time comes,that way its thought out and uninterupted and you dont got to hear other peoples Opinions.

Kelsey - posted on 01/22/2012

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personally I don't think you can name a baby before you see it or know it a little bit. I had a list of girl names picked out and a list of boys named picked out because I didn't know what I was having. after she was born we decided which name suite her best and that was that :)

Bernadette - posted on 01/22/2012

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my kids were both named years before they were even conceived! I had two names picked out that I really liked - Lewis for a boy, as that is my maiden name so I had always planned on calling my first son that. And Ella for a girl, simply because I thought it was such a pretty name. I liked it for such a long time, long before it became as popular as it is now. I was a bit disappointed when I finally got pregnant and suddenly was hearing the name everywhere but I'd had my heart set on it for such a long time that I used it anyway. And it suits her. I don't know what I'm going to do when I have another one because with my first two, having had one of each, I didn't have to even consider names (except middle names) because I'd had them chosen for so long. I'm not even pregnant again yet, but already starting to take note of names that I like because when you name a kid, they are going to be stuck with that name for life. 9 months is not a long time to choose a name that is going to be with them for that long, and something that you like now, you may not like in a few months time. I think a name you've had picked out for ages is good, because you know you like it, you've had a chance to try it out, and know you're not going to change your mind on it. And if you have a few names picked out, but no particular one you have your heart set on, that's when it's good to wait until after the baby is born to choose - you can try them all out and see which one "fits" best.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/21/2012

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I have not read any comments, but I think it is a good idea to come up with names before hand, a list you both agree on. You can both have a special name you like, and after the baby is born, you can chose then. It is a lot of pressure to name the baby, and even more pressure to chose on the spot like that with out any names already on hand. You will be tired, and recovering. You want to make it easy on yourself. Good luck.

Alexandra - posted on 01/21/2012

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it is really up to you guys. we named our babies after knowing the sex for sure, about 20 weeks pregnant.

Joanna - posted on 01/21/2012

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I have done both. With my first, I had a name all picked out for her. Had it on a puzzle and clothing and everything. I knew her name I think even before i found out she was a girl. with my second, i knew he was a boy but no idea on a name. Struggled with it the whole pregnancy. Had a name I thought I might use, but was not sure. After birth, I was pretty sure that name was not right and my Dad suggested a name I always loved but didn't think went with our last name and I knew it was right. So one child was named long before and the other not until after. I much preferred the naming before. It was stressful knowing I would need to fill out the birth certificate and not knowing what I was going to put on it. I liked knowing with my daughter, not even having to think about it. so if you can pick a name before hand, I highly recommend choosing ahead of time. Sounds like you already know this child's name. I wonder if perhaps your bf feels left out of the naming process and that is his motivation for saying this. I also think it should be primarily the mother's job to choose the name. I think the father can and should give his input, but it is the mother carrying the baby inside her body for all those months. And so I believe she should have final say. JMO.

Kim - posted on 01/21/2012

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I would recommend having it narrowed down to a couple of names. I have three daughters and we named each before they were born. My sister-in-law had two names picked out for my nephew and they waited to meet him to choose.

User - posted on 01/21/2012

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My baby girl will be 10 weeks old on Monday and I've had her name picked out since I was pregnant with my son 10 yrs ago. I think you should pick out a name as soon as possible. I feel your baby is part of your family before it is ever born. We would talk about Mckinlee before she was ever born.... for example .... we would say "look at this little dress I bought Mckinlee! " I just wouldnt feel right saying the baby all the time, plus we had her name embroidered on most of her stuff. Another really good example is that I had 2 boy names picked out and 1 girl name when I got pregnant with my son. I chose Landon at first but in my last month of pregnancy I decided to go with my other choice, Keegan but after discussing it with my family my sister made a good point. She pointed out that we had referred to him as Landon from day 1 and that changing it to Keegan at the last minute wouldnt seem quite right. Even though he wasn't born yet, he was already Landon

As for my newborn daughter, her name Mckinlee was the girl name I was referring to when pregnant the first time. I know this sounds like a lot of gibberish but it really makes total sense. Go ahead and name that baby mama! She is part of the family already.

Samantha - posted on 01/21/2012

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We have four children. Each time we narrowed down a short list of names before they were born, but waited to actually name them until we met them face to face to see which named suited them the best. I think all for of them have names that match their personalities! :)

Benita - posted on 01/21/2012

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I named my eldest before he was born but when he was born I named him something completely different a name not even on my long list let a lone on my short list, plus when I was pregnant with my youngest (3rd child) my eldest named him, my bump had a name from about 15 weeks.



You can tell when its right!

Tiffani - posted on 01/21/2012

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We had our names picked out before we had the kiddos!! however, my sister had names picked during the pregnancy, and when our nephew was born, and she saw him, she said "he looks like a..." and completely changed the name! maybe you want some ideas, but you may change it when your little miracle arrives!! Congratulations!!

Miranda - posted on 01/20/2012

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when i was pregnant, we chose 2 names. One was what we wanted to name the baby and the other was a back up name. For example, we chose the name Mason and our back up name was Lucas. We thought he looked like a Mason when he came out, so we named him Mason.

Merry - posted on 01/20/2012

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Yeah that's how babies end up being names 'meconium' or 'chlamydia' or 'female' or 'cookie' because the mom was unprepared and a bit exhausted and maybe just a tad bit drugged. :)

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ummm...i'm sorry, but i don't see why there should be any discussion...what matters is that the baby gets named, right? it shouldn't matter when it is named.



we had two names picked out for our first, a boy and girl name, both of which having "Alex" in them. it ended up being a girl and we scrapped "Alexis" for Juliana for multiple reasons. this second pregnancy, i have a feeling it's a boy so we are focusing on boy names, but still keeping the name "Alexis" to fall back on just in case.



i think it's best to be prepared with a short list instead of being thrown into making a decision after the baby is born because i believe a lot of thought should go into naming another human being. they'll be stuck with it the rest of their lives, so the parents need to make the most of their kids' names. after having the baby, you're probably going to be too stressed out after the labor and with all the nurses rushing around to bother with putting decent thought into names.



plus i personally think your boyfriend is lying if he says he hasn't been thinking of what he wants his son or daughter to be named. if he wants anything to do with his lineage, he IS thinking of names.

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My daughter was named 7 years before she was born. I just wasn't 100% on middle names. Her name suits her perfectly IMO.



My son was named the night before my c-section.

Lisa - posted on 01/20/2012

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My husband had a girl's name picked out for 18 years! So as soon as we knew she was a girl, we knew her name. All of my children (4) had names before they were born. I just couldn't imagine not having some idea of a name before giving birth.

I would give your boyfriend some choices and try to agree on at least a couple of names before going into labor. Good Luck!

Jessica - posted on 01/20/2012

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Like many of the other moms have said, it's a personal choice. With me, I had it narrowed down to three names for our first son and 5 with our second son, but waited until we saw his face for the first time before giving him his name. I personally think you need to see the face to make sure the name fits the baby, but not everyone feels that way.



A suggestion would be to compromise. Pick out names now, but decide on one after, then you get the best of both worlds... by picking names, you know your child will not go long after birth without a name, but at the same time you aren't officially naming them beforehand! Good luck!

Louisa - posted on 01/20/2012

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I would assume, BEFORE, the baby is born! My personal opinion, would most definitely before... What if after the baby's born, u name him/her then u don't like it? U don't want to continue changing names until you're happy? Before, u have ALL the time u need to finalize on a name... :)

Donna - posted on 01/20/2012

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I actually had my girls name picked out when I was 11 years old. I babysat an adorable girl named Michelle and said if I ever had a girl I would name her Michelle. I had the name Kevin picked out before my son was born. Some people wait until they see their baby to see what name will fit him/her. It's all an individual choice.

Tonya - posted on 01/20/2012

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im 5 months pregnant going through the same situation only this is my first boy,i have 4 girls i named before delivery.the right name will come to u when u least exspect it! wish u luck...

Merry - posted on 01/20/2012

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We named both kids before they were conceived. We also have the next boy and girl names chosen, two girls names actually all ready to go. And a second boys name but unsure on his middle name.

Of course it can change but we have been set on Brendan Paul for our second boy for 5 years now. As well as our firstborn Eric Ryan has been chosen that long too.

I couldn't wait for birth to name the baby, I want to feel bonded and connected before the birth so for me name is important

Lynn - posted on 01/20/2012

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My sister named her son a few hours after he was born. IMO, that's too stressful and emotional to try to make such an important decision! You may not be entirely rational right then!

Lynn - posted on 01/20/2012

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We had 3-4 names picked out, and made both decisions right after the ultrasounds when we found out we were having a boy, then later, a girl.

Kelly - posted on 01/20/2012

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I had names in mind for my first three but I never found out what sex they were however on my last baby which I had 16 weeks ago I did find out at 17 weeks that I was having

a girl we wanted to call her Honey when I had her and looked at her I instantly knew she suited her name perfectly however if she was a dark haired big baby she would not have suited it I just think sometes you need up see bubba before final decision

Sherri - posted on 01/20/2012

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Hmmmm interesting philosophies. I feel any child just fits the name chosen for them. I never believed any child just fit one name over another nor have I actually known anyone that has named their baby after it was born vs. in the womb so maybe that is why my feeling is so different.

Kelly - posted on 01/20/2012

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I think you should have some ideas but sometimes babies just don't suit the name you wanted after seeing them

Rebecca - posted on 01/20/2012

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Only one out of four of our kids were named in the hospital.

Three were named a week after they came home from the hospital. That's how much time they said we had. I just wanted to make sure it was the right name. I wanted to get to see & know them first. Plus my husband had a had time deciding ;) I love all my kids names so it worked out good for us.

I think it's like any other part of parenting, your choice, everyone is different.

Amanda - posted on 01/20/2012

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I named my son when I was about 10 weeks pregnant. I had a feeling he was going to be a boy and had made up my mind one day and started using it.



My daughter was named at birth because we couldn't agree on a name. I gave my hubby a shortlist of names that I wanted to pick and he chose his favourite of the 3.

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