naperville mom

Christine - posted on 09/04/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




Hi my son is 9yrs. and has ADHD, well he does not care for his meds,having issues with him in school.Any advise that might help with his anxieties. This is hard enough to know he is struggling in school.


Guest - posted on 09/05/2014




Which symptoms is he struggling with the most? If he doesn't like the way he feels on the meds, that means they are not right for him. Do not continue forcing him to take them, instead, work with a psychiatrist to get the right medication and dose for his situation.

Is he doing any behavioral modification therapy in addition to the medications? This would usually be done with a psychologist, or sometimes a psychiatrist or therapist. Most of the time, medication alone is not enough to help a person with ADHD cope with their symptoms. Also remember that medication and therapy do not make the symptoms of ADHD go away, they simply help the person suffering from ADHD cope with and manage the symptoms. Behavioral therapy is often far more effective than medication, and in many cases where the patient does not respond well to any medication (medications often cause side effects that are too severe to balance out the benefit), behavioral modification therapies can be all they need.

If you tell me which symptoms he struggles with the most, I can give you some exercises to help him cope. For now, I will assume that he is struggling because he has trouble staying focused on the instructor and on his work or reading.

For trouble listening, allow him to draw or doodle while he listens to the teacher. This gives him a physical outlet for the excess synapse firings going on in his mind. A normal person will become distracted by the drawing and it will pull their focus away from the teacher, but a person with ADHD will be able to better focus on the teacher while moving around. (Other good options are allowing him to sit in a rocking chair or swing, or allowing him to pace while listening, but these are often not suitable for school environments).

For staying focused on reading, teach him to read one page then draw a picture of what is going on in the book. Then he will read the next page and add to his picture. If the scene changes too much to continue adding to the picture, he can start a new picture. If the book returns to a previously drawn scene, he can begin adding to that picture again if he likes. This will keep his mind engaged in two ways, linguistically and visually. This is especially helpful for reading fiction, autobiographies, science, and history. If he is in a situation where he cannot draw a picture as he reads, have him describe the picture to you after every page. If he is trying to remember facts and dates, have him incorporate them into the picture by giving the characters name tags, putting a calendar in the corner, or adding thought bubbles for famous quotes.

Staying focused on written work is the most difficult--there is science behind why, but it is complicated. The best method is to set a short timer for say 10 minutes. Tell him to do as much as he can in 10 minutes then he can have a break. Then set the timer for 2 minutes (it is very important to keep the break very short, but he must take it). During the break, he can get up and move around, but he needs to sit back down when the timer dings and do another 10 minutes. Do this until all of the work is finished.
Also, have him make a written or typed list of everything he needs to accomplish, as he accomplishes the tasks, have him cross them out. This releases chemicals in the brain that motivate us to move onto another task.

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