Elizabeth - posted on 05/12/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )
I have been helping a 15 year old step daughter for 8 years now. Things finally blew up last night, oh happy Mother's Day. Nasty and entitled is a description in a nutshell. Her mother is an alcoholic and until last February she was not ready to live 100% with us instead of the 50/50 arrangement. Forget the courts they do not take children away from an alcoholic you just have to live with it until the child is emotionally ready to just visit periodically and not live with them regularly. My husband spent thousands to no avail. DUI's and convictions for assault and battery in a bar fight while on probation doesn't count with the courts where we live. The step daughter has been on her broom ever since she arrived here full time 15 months ago, at her request. She was no angel before it is just when she went to mom's house I got a break. She is disrespectful, bad mouths me to her friends who are then rude to me, lies about homework and is lazy, stomps off to her room almost daily, and has started taking my things. Her current GPA is 1.8 so yeah I caused that too. Like as no way honey you are blowing your life up all on your own. From the time she was 7 years old her mother has told her that it is CRUEL to be corrected or told what to do. Nothing like a crazy drunk. In counseling this is also called Fighting by Proxy - get back at your ex by causing the child to be nightmare. The step daughter has been in counseling on and off for years and living with us for the last 15 months has not helped. I am just fed up and wish she would go back to the drunk crazy mother, because she is just the dry version of her. Not much sympathy anymore for how she got to where she is now, I just want her gone.