natural birth vs c section ( both options with epidural)

Maryke - posted on 02/17/2014 ( 29 moms have responded )

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hi there. I would reallllly like some advice. I don't know which option to choose. natural birth or c section. I really don't want to go through the whole vagina tearing process and I really hate blood and needles and im just too scared and I don't know if I will be able to take the pain. and on the other side the c section which is starting to look more viable seems to promise a very long recovery period?? and I don't want to struggle when I really want to hold or pick up my baby. so I know there are a lot of pros and cons to each side, but I want personal info from mothers who experienced this before. can you please help with some facts on each side..

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Amy - posted on 02/21/2014

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I had a c-section 36 hours after my water broke with no almost no progression. I would not recommend a planned c-section unless medically necessary. I did need help the first week because I could not get out of bed easily. It is major surgery and the risk of problems and infection is greater. Every first-time mom worries about pain at delivery. You should talk to your doctor and, if possible, visit the maternity floor of the hospital where you plan to deliver. Take a prenatal class. One way or another you will get through it and there will be pain either way.

Serena - posted on 02/19/2014

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And also during the c section they put things up in front of you so you cant see them cutting etc so its great being awake and get to see your angel as soon as its born. You not tired from pushing and all that the only sort of feeling you have is like a weird tugging feeling when they taking baby out. Not painful at all!! :-) hope it helps

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Adri - posted on 02/22/2014

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I have had all 4 of my kids naturally without drugs. That was a personal decision because I can't handle needles unless I can see everything that's going on. I know that sounds weird but I just can't. I can only comment on natural birthing process and for me it worked out successfully and my babies delivered without too much pushing because I was able to pay close attention to what my body was telling me. I also know women who had C-sections and they were very satisfied for the outcome. There is a healing process for both options, but it is a longer healing process for a C-section because it is major surgery and this is the only reason I would not recommend opting for a planned c-section because it can be dangerous and quite painful from what I have heard. Either way you'll still have the same outcome as a natural birth-a beautiful baby. Overall, just go along with what YOU are most comfortable with and don't allow anyone to make this decision for you because they won't have to live with the end results.

Amanda - posted on 02/21/2014

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My name is Amanda. I have had two Csections. I personally feel you should let your body do what is supposed to do. Try to have you child naturally. I had that choice taken from me due to my own medical problems. I wish everyday to experience a natural birth to just know how it is, if it makes a difference. Having a csection affected my wanting to breastfeed and everything. I wouldnt go to for a csection unless you have too.

Amy - posted on 02/21/2014

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I ended up having a c-section because my labor wasn't progressing--I was in labor for 24 hours and only got to 3 cm. They told me a c-section would be the best choice so they prepped me and they wheeled me to the operating room. On the operating table they gave me, I think, a couple different meds through IV to make me numb and before I knew it our son was here (I had also gotten the epidural awhile beforehand before I knew I would have to get a c-section)! There is a screen separating your chest on up from the rest of your body so you can't see what's going on. I was awake the entire time with my boyfriend sitting by my side. I even had a couple short conversations with a couple different doctors in there. I did start to feel a bit dizzy and like I was going to throw up for a couple minutes (and the main doctor had mentioned if that happened to just let him know and they would give me some meds through the IV to ease that feeling (so I did tell him and the meds made the feeling go away). Soon they lifted up our son so my boyfriend could stand up and take a couple quick pictures, then they took our son to be cleaned up and so on and brought him back for me to see while they sewed/stitched my stomach back up. I felt nothing for the entire process except light tugging (which was when they were pulling my son out). I have to say though, the recovery process--at least for me--was not enjoyable. It was pretty painful--the first 2-3 weeks are the worst! Getting up from the couch/a chair and/or trying to sit down was pretty uncomfortable. I needed help for the first couple weeks because I couldn't do it myself. Using the bathroom wasn't too terrible, but it did still hurt a bit--at least for the first couple weeks. My boyfriend was the one who was up with our son every couple hours during the night for the first couple weeks and he was the one who basically cared for him the first 2-3 weeks because I just couldn't do it---way too painful to bend over, pick up our son and so on. So, with all that being said I would TOTALLY recommend getting a c-section. This was our first child, but for any future children I will definitely be requesting a c-section. And just because you get a c-section the first time doesn't necessarily mean you have to get a c-section for all your future children---the way in which my doctor stitched me back up allows me to deliver vaginally if I so choose for our next child. Hope this helps and I wish you all the best! Do what is best for you and your baby when the time comes. :)

Kathy - posted on 02/20/2014

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Serena that is the part I made sure they did!! I love c section especially when they numb you but sadly I had BAD recoveries with c section. I adore natural because you push them out and it is faster. But Maryke, trust me that if you do natural birth make sure you have the medications because it is too hard to stand, especially if you are a teen mom. And with c sections you never know if you have time to get numbed because you can be awake and feel the whole thing. Personally I prefer natural but both are great.

Pushingagainstheflow - posted on 02/20/2014

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Often medical staff will recommend C-section due to insurance policy reasons so make sure you are getting the best advice for yourself and your child, not what is best for the doctor or the hospital. I had natural birth the first time and was in labour, pushing for 8 hours, it was horrific but I did not want my child to be affected by drugs. I had an epidural for my second child and that was bliss and I literally pushed for 3 seconds. It really helps to have a good midwife as they do have your best interest at heart. Personally, if the baby or you are not in danger or under any stress then I don't see why go any other way than natural. Do a little research on the benefits of natural birth for your child. All the best.

Maryke - posted on 02/19/2014

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thank you Serena. im glad to hear that one is not bed ridden and cant do anything. thank you so much!

Serena - posted on 02/19/2014

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I had c-section not by choice but once i had it i was really glad i did! It was amazing! The recovery period is longer then natural but i got out of bed everyday and carried on as normal. Its not that sore that you gotta be stuck in bed all day! Trust me when the time comes for you to give birth you dont care about needles etc! I cant even remember the epidural, i just wanted my baby out. Hehe but the only thing is if you have a c-section with the first you have to have it for all. . . With natural you can have it either way

Kathy - posted on 02/19/2014

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Jessica is right.... you are awake during c sections. I have gone naturally and I do prefer that with blood and needles but if you don't want contraction pain then do c section. I have had c sections where you push them out. But yo can get numbed with c section surgery only if you have time. I have gotten numbed in c section. Hope you choose natural though but with less pain and time c section is the way to go

Jessica - posted on 02/19/2014

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Y Many things that can go wrong I have done BOTH. If the pain an needles are your problem then I would suggest natural. My first child I had her naturally. Yes there are contractions you have to deal with (depending) but if this is your first child you do not know how well you may deal with it. I had NO contraction pain with my 3rd at all. And if you are worried about the pain of pushing the baby out, you can have an epadural or they can put a little less effective pain meds in your IV. But I really really encourage you to do natural birth. you will see more needles, and deal with more blood and gross stuff with a c-section trust me. And there are so many more possible complications with a c-section. And are you aware you have to remain awake for a c-section? It is a major surgery. Who wants to have a major surgery when it can be avoided? You need to also take into consideration the fact that if you choose a c-section you may not ever get to "choose" how you have another baby again. I had to have an emergency c-section with my 2nd child and they told me "oh we are going to do a new kind of c-section where you wont have to have another again like with with the old way" well that may be true but I wouldn't know, because that very hospital i found out with my 3rd child, doesn't allow allow vaginal births after c-sectin no matter the style because there are too many risks. I got turned down for "vbac" by 6 other major hospitals. I was going to have to travel 4 hrs away, which I was not able to do because of insureance & practicality reasons, so I was forced to have another c-section.

Kathy - posted on 02/18/2014

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I had to get a c section with my first child because it was my only choice (I was 17) since i was only a teen they knew I could not bear the pain. For my 3rd child I was getting c section (I was used to c section) but they did not cut me.

Kathy - posted on 02/18/2014

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Oh yea bye the way I don't think I could survive without the epidural although I hate needles epidural is a must have for ME

Kathy - posted on 02/18/2014

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I have had this choice before and it really is all about if you can stand pain. I don't like blood or needles either but I really cannot stand pain so I prefer c section. This is my opinion though. Hope I helped

Danicia - posted on 02/17/2014

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I had an epidural assisted vaginal delivery with my daughter and plan for the same with my son next month. I am TERRIFIED of the idea of a scalpel touching me and stitches/staples so avoiding a csection at all costs will always be my plan. I have a couple friends who have had csections and their recoveries were much worse than mine. within 2 hours of having my daughter I was up and walking (you have to wait a while for the epidural to wear off before getting up). I did have to have an episiotomy b/c of how she was positioned but I couldn't see the stitches and I didn't have to touch them so it was ok. the needle for the epidural you do not have to even see- you get more needles in your hands for hydration/etc. in a hospital birth. my csection friends were not able to get up for much longer and were hooked up to machines well after they had delivered- they had to have leg pump things on their calves to ensure circulation so they wouldn't get blood clots after the procedure. csection is a major surgery and requires major recovery. I would highly recommend preparing for a natural birth vs a csection. the only benefit I can see in planning a csection is picking out your childs' bday, otherwise natural outweighs it substantially.

Whitney - posted on 02/17/2014

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Have the baby the natural way. The only way I recommend having a c-section is if you HAVE to. I had to because my baby breached but I really wanted to have him vaginally just for the experience and it is more natural. My recovery time was very long and if I did not have my mother and husband there at all times for the first 10 days I would have been in trouble. I couldnt even change a diaper as it was too painful. I really felt like part of my birthing experience was stripped because I could not fully look after my son properly I HAD to have help.

Gena - posted on 02/17/2014

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I wanted a natural birth, i didnt have an epidural but they had to cut me and pull my son out.But i also got up and had a shower,i was abit scared of other moms telling me they couldnt sit after getting stiches down there.. but i didnt have any problems. But yes i shouted loud when they cut me because they didnt have time to numb it.I have heard that getting a cut hurts less then when it tears naturaly..but i cant answer that.

Michelle - posted on 02/17/2014

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No way. You are up and around straight away. You feel tender for a few days but it's bearable.
If you have an epidural though you can't get up on your own until it has worn off.

Maryke - posted on 02/17/2014

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ooh I see. so even with a tear ...there... its not like you are completely useless.

Michelle - posted on 02/17/2014

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I tore with my 1st and 3rd but I was still walking around straight away and had a shower. With my 2nd I didn't tear or even graze.
I had only 5 stitches with my 3rd and didn't even feel it after a few days. Not like a c section where you are bedridden for days and can't do anything for at least 6 weeks.

Maryke - posted on 02/17/2014

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ooh. in S Africa they like cutting. you can deliver 6 babies in your lunch break :). how was your recovery with natural. and the tearing thing did it happen every time? was it bad,,

Michelle - posted on 02/17/2014

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I'm in Australia and doctors would prefer you to go naturally than do c sections. For me it was never an option and there was no way I would ever get an epidural.

Maryke - posted on 02/17/2014

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thank you michelle. yup im giving you guys all my fears so you can just tell me the truth about both options. ive noticed doctors like doing c sections, I take it cause they can book you in advance. doctor also mentioned that although woman are suppose to be doing this naturally,, technology just gives us so much more.. im really stuck between options.

Michelle - posted on 02/17/2014

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I'm not brave, I just did what women have been doing for thousands of years.

Michelle - posted on 02/17/2014

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I saw in your other post that you say you hate needles. You do realize that an epidural is a needle directly into your spine and then they have to put you on a drip, another needle into your hand. You also have pain relief with a c section and that can either be a self administrating pump or more needles.

There are a lot less needles if you have a baby naturally.

Maryke - posted on 02/17/2014

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thank you Michelle. you sound very brave. I guess its hard to do this if you don't have anything to compare it with. thanks!

Michelle - posted on 02/17/2014

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I have had 3 naturally with no drugs and I would go that option every time. There is no way I would opt for a c section unless it was for medical reasons.
The recovery time is around 6 weeks (no driving either) and about 24 hours confined to bed after with a catheter. After my 2nd I was walking around as if I hadn't even given birth. I didn't tear and I could have gone home that day.

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