Need a New Support Network!!!

Mary - posted on 06/30/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am not sure how to make new friends while balancing work and children, and I am feeling completely alone!!!

I just moved to a new town after accepting a new job. I am a single mother, and I don't know anyone here. I am not very religious, and I have tried reaching out to people through church in the past and had no luck, so I am reluctant to try that again. (I felt completely unwelcome there.)

I am in a long distance relationship that works for me, though it doesn't offer much support. It seems like every group I've tried to look at for single parents is either a dating site or stay at home moms who meet up during the day.

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Sofia - posted on 06/30/2016

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Awww,
Sorry I didn't reply earlier---well you seem like such an active and well rounded person, no doubt you will eventually make lots of friends but perhaps visiting parks? Swimming with the boys and making friends with those around you?
As you know---libraries are good for hanging out and finding out what's going on in the community.
You could go to a different Church every Sunday until you find something.
My daughter is 3.5 and we've never left her with a babysitter so I completely understand!

Mary - posted on 06/30/2016

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Sofia,
I guess I could explain a bit more about the 'single parent' comment...I am terrified of finding a babysitter online and trusting a stranger to watch my kids, but I really can't afford day care. That knocks me out of most of the 'non-parenting' groups.

I looked on Meet Up, and the only Mom's groups in the area I could find were for military spouses or stay at home moms. So I guess when I said 'single mom' I was feeling a bit put out at not being included just because I don't happen to be married. :) I started an 'all moms' group on meetup myself, but I am not sure if that will take off or not. Hopefully it will, and I can meet some people through that!

As for work, I am a teacher, so that doesn't start regularly until August. I recently attended some math dept. training, and I had really high hopes for meeting a coworker to do things with...Everyone was really friendly and I think it will be an awesome team to work with, but they all seemed pretty wrapped up in their family lives. (That in itself will be a great way to meet people once the boys start soccer next season, but I am struggling at thinking of getting through the next month...)

I am a runner, but I don't play any team sports. (Or I was...I don't have anyone to watch the boys, so it is insanity dvd's for me until I get my first paycheck and can afford to join a gym!)

Maybe the meetup group will work out. :) And if not, August is only a month away and then I will have students and coworkers to take the edge off the loneliness. :)

Thank you for your reply. Having someone who seems to care helps, even if it is online...

Sofia - posted on 06/30/2016

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I feel for you! Perhaps you can branch out and not label yourself as a single parent! You are much more than that! Have you tried Meet Up? Or an adult softball group? Depending on your child's age? Ask people at work what they do for fun and if you had a bad time at one church---just keep trying other ones...there will be a fit!

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