Shruti - posted on 03/24/2010
yes.there is always a phase of post natal depression, as the mother is not all set ready to parenting.She always feel either she is falling short doing all the things for baby and all also doing all of them mostly single handed as mother is very close to her babies.In this situation fathers can play really good role, supporting the mother, comforting her making relaxed by talking to her making her feel special for what she is today and how because of her she has given the greta feeling of being a father.Her husband should take out extra time for her and the baby to make both special.Nobody else other than him can handle this situation.
Melissa - posted on 03/24/2010
Talk frankly and openly with her. She might need a very honest conversation because she may feel down inside, but cannot pin it on her. I am not speaking as a professional, but a mom that has dealt with post partum depression (twice now). I had to have very open conversations with my husband, doctor, and a close personal friend. I had to understand that it wasn't my fault, but I needed help from others to conquer the sadness I was experiencing. I also started attending church again and learned to pray with sincerety and believe Christ's promises were for me as well.
Helping her out around the house is awesome, but don't be offended if she doesn't appear appreciative. I received lots of help from my husband, but it made me feel sad b/c I looked at it like "I couldn't do it on my own." It was pride that I needed to get over.
A good friend told me to "get over myself, that I was beautiful, and I needed to pray" and I took her advice. I am still climbing out of the hole I was in, but everyday is a better one!
Nadine - posted on 03/24/2010
Be her friend - talk to her, but mainly listen. Do small things around the house for her, such as laundry or luxing or something. Let her know that you are there if she needs you. If she has a partner, talk to them about your concerns if you can trust them. If you are very concerned, then talk to your friend and her family. Encourage her to get some professional help and assure her that shes not weak, or pathetic or going crazy. She just needs support and abit of help.
Hope that helps!
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