need advice

Ayesha - posted on 09/22/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hi All,

I recently accepted to take in a 15 months old girl for my daycare. Before signing the contract the parents came over to acclimatize their daughter to my in-house Day-Care.

She seemed a bit shy but no other alarming signs were there.

On her first day at my daycare right before nap time she started screaming and crying and refused to drink unless i hold her and put her head on my shoulder.

Her father advised me to put her head on my shoulder until she sleeps, and her being a healthy child, my shoulder started aching after an hour.

I told her father that i cannot take care of his daughter as its not fair to me , or to the other children.

Did i do the right thing ? should i have tried more, or maybe there is something i should have done to calm her down ? i also feel guilty that i could not help the child or her parents.

If anyone has similar experience , please do share, and how you coped with it



Vicki - posted on 09/22/2012




Personally for me when i know that i have tried my best and done what i could to help i then feel confident with my choices. You did what you could believe in yourself that you made the right choice for yourself and focus on that :)


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Ayesha - posted on 09/22/2012




Hi Maren,

Yes, i only tried for one day. The main reason being that i HAD to hold her head on my shoulder for as long as it took for her to go to sleep and slowly lay her down to bed, in the mean time, there should be absolutely NO noise and no other people in the room. This was strictly communicated to me by her Dad night before her first day. Now, i have other children to take care and i have to be equally fair to them and myself too.

I hope this answers your question.



Maren - posted on 09/22/2012




I need just a little clarity, did you try for just one day, or did you give it a couple of weeks. Of corse she was fine the first time she came over her parents were there. At 15 months it can take some time for a child to get used to a situation, I would have given it a month. But again I am not sure how long you tried.

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