Need Advice

Ethel - posted on 11/09/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )




My daughter lived with me since the day she was born. Her father and i got seperated when she was 6 months old. Beginning last year, she began telling me that she will be better off with her father everytime she didn't get her way with me. So this passed May, i purchased a plane ticket, and she went with her grandma to spend time with her father in Hawaii. Now, we only skype when she visits her aunty in Hawaii, and everytime we skyped, she always cry and said she wants to come back. She said she sometimes hid and cried at night. I've been trying my best to bring her back, but her father's family wanted her to spend more time with them. It is killing me knowing that my daughter wants to come back, yet she can't. She feared showing her father's family how much she wanted to come back, she feared showing them her true feelings. Because of her fear, it is not helping me to convince her father's family that she wants to come back. Now, her father's family thinks that I am the one who wants her to come back, so they are ignoring me. Why do 10 year olds fear showing their true feelings?


Michelle - posted on 11/09/2014




Do you not have any court orders?
If not then you need to get some.
In regards to 10yo's not showing their true feelings, she probably feels horrible that she was "wrong" in thinking she would be better off with her Dad. She possibly also doesn't want to hurt her Dad's family by saying she wants to go back to you. It's hard not knowing what they are saying to her as well.

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