Need Advice About 2 Year Old Son

Jennifer - posted on 12/18/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Need some advice. My sons paternal grandparents are adament that he is autistic, because he will rock back and forth and flap his hands when excited or bored. He also is not speaking, but babbles consistantly, and the babbling has increased by leaps and bounds in the past 2 months.. he's actually always babbling in different sounds and consenents, tone and pitch change, etc. He does not point, but he reaches and grabs to indicate wanting something, or usually will just go to the cabinet and pull out the cereal bars or animal cookies that he wants and brings them to me. If he's thirsty he will grab my hand and pull me to the kitchen and look up at the cabinet where his sippys are kept. If he already has a sippy, he drinks until hes done and then sets it on the table (if he's being good) or puts in on the floor, where he goes back to it when he wants more. The grandparents say that my son does not respond to his name when they call it, and that he doesnt make eye contact with them. My fiancee and I are thoroughly dumbfounded, as our son always responds to his name when we say it, unless he is very intently playing with something, or he has just been told no. ( That makes me think its more that he is upset with us and doesnt want to communicate). He will even on a very very rare occasion look at my fiancee when he walks into a room and say "Hi Dada" and on a more frequent basis when I ask him questions at night when I get home from work he will say "yea" appropriately. He understands us, I know he does, because when he layed down on the floor last night and was eating a cereal bar I said "What did mommy say about laying down and eating? You can't do that." He immediately sat up. If he's running in the backyard and I say "Too far, come back" more often than not he will... Occasionally I'll get a devilish grin and he takes off in the other direction. I just need some advice, the grandparents will not let it go, and even have recently said "His future is in your hands, we only want to help him, not hurt him" and other things insinuating that my fiancee and I are "overlooking" issues and not being concerned parents. The grandmother has called everyone on that side of the family, telling them her assumptions of our son, and I don't appreciate that. Especially when shes folowing it with "we arent having him tested". when I look at my son I see a happy, healthy, energetic, curious boy, who doesnt need to verbalize what he wants because we always provide for him. Hes loving and happy, smiles when you smile at him.. loves peek a boo and to be tickled... can do puzzle blocks and shape sorters and loves toy cars... will run to me while im washing dishes and wrap his little arms around my leg and squeeze me for a minute, and then go play. He cries when I leave and jumps up and runs to me when I return from work. If I or my fiancee say his name, he turns his head and smiles at us. He does sit on the floor and rock, or on the couch and rock and flap his hands, but not all the time, only when excited or bored.. and can be destracted and deterred from doing it. He loves the rocking chair and will get in it and rock and watch a cartoon, or sometimes rock it real hard and bounce back and forth (but again I think he's just being a boy) My mom gut tells me he's ok.. that he doesnt feel the need or want to talk but will eventually. But what do you ladies think? Sorry for such a long post.. but the grandmorher is getting teary and crying and saying he just breaks her heart and I dont know why.. but I know if she is going to act like that I dont want my son to be affected by that behavior or grow to think its his fault Nana is upset. Or worse yet to feel like there is something wrong with him. Am I over reacting? Could it be autism? Just need some sort of advice from someone objective.

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Jennifer - posted on 12/18/2014

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Thank you for the advice. I had thought about hearing and maybe even vision tests but had hesitated because he can and will do things appropriately for me and his father, and even my mother and my best friend.. the issue seems to be him communicating with the paternal grandparents. Will look into getting him a hearing test soon. and that was my big issue with autism screening.. seems like everywhere I turn I hear autism autism... because they do this or that they are autistic... seems like a go to more than an actual issue most of the time.

Sarah - posted on 12/18/2014

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I would do a speech and hearing evaluation just to make sure everything is good. By 2 yrs old a child should be saying 50 different words. Each child is different and some are slower talkers, but sometimes there is an issue and getting the help at 2 yrs old is VERY important as by time they turn 3 yrs old they start to age out of some of the assistance/help they can get. I would suggest calling your local school and they can get you connected with the local AEA (area education agency) that will do a free speech and hearing evaluation.....sometimes their speech is linked to hearing even if they seem like they are hearing and understanding you it maybe a muffled sound to them. They can hear enough to understand and respond, but it is not clear enough to learn their speech or certain sounds. Once they do the evaluation if they see that there is a need for speech therapy or hearing aids this can also be free. If all is good you loose nothing by having an evaluation done and you also have the peace of mind that everything really is ok. If there is something that needs tended to you get the help when he can be helped the most and possibly be caught up to the rest of his peers before school starts. You also get all the available programs before he has aged out of some that may really help.

As far as autism.....they can also evaluate for this, but often times people jump to thinking it is autism when it is something more simple like speech or hearing. Autism has become the new "thing" to go to when something does not seem right when most of the time the issue is something different.

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