Jennifer - posted on 12/18/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )
Need some advice. My sons paternal grandparents are adament that he is autistic, because he will rock back and forth and flap his hands when excited or bored. He also is not speaking, but babbles consistantly, and the babbling has increased by leaps and bounds in the past 2 months.. he's actually always babbling in different sounds and consenents, tone and pitch change, etc. He does not point, but he reaches and grabs to indicate wanting something, or usually will just go to the cabinet and pull out the cereal bars or animal cookies that he wants and brings them to me. If he's thirsty he will grab my hand and pull me to the kitchen and look up at the cabinet where his sippys are kept. If he already has a sippy, he drinks until hes done and then sets it on the table (if he's being good) or puts in on the floor, where he goes back to it when he wants more. The grandparents say that my son does not respond to his name when they call it, and that he doesnt make eye contact with them. My fiancee and I are thoroughly dumbfounded, as our son always responds to his name when we say it, unless he is very intently playing with something, or he has just been told no. ( That makes me think its more that he is upset with us and doesnt want to communicate). He will even on a very very rare occasion look at my fiancee when he walks into a room and say "Hi Dada" and on a more frequent basis when I ask him questions at night when I get home from work he will say "yea" appropriately. He understands us, I know he does, because when he layed down on the floor last night and was eating a cereal bar I said "What did mommy say about laying down and eating? You can't do that." He immediately sat up. If he's running in the backyard and I say "Too far, come back" more often than not he will... Occasionally I'll get a devilish grin and he takes off in the other direction. I just need some advice, the grandparents will not let it go, and even have recently said "His future is in your hands, we only want to help him, not hurt him" and other things insinuating that my fiancee and I are "overlooking" issues and not being concerned parents. The grandmother has called everyone on that side of the family, telling them her assumptions of our son, and I don't appreciate that. Especially when shes folowing it with "we arent having him tested". when I look at my son I see a happy, healthy, energetic, curious boy, who doesnt need to verbalize what he wants because we always provide for him. Hes loving and happy, smiles when you smile at him.. loves peek a boo and to be tickled... can do puzzle blocks and shape sorters and loves toy cars... will run to me while im washing dishes and wrap his little arms around my leg and squeeze me for a minute, and then go play. He cries when I leave and jumps up and runs to me when I return from work. If I or my fiancee say his name, he turns his head and smiles at us. He does sit on the floor and rock, or on the couch and rock and flap his hands, but not all the time, only when excited or bored.. and can be destracted and deterred from doing it. He loves the rocking chair and will get in it and rock and watch a cartoon, or sometimes rock it real hard and bounce back and forth (but again I think he's just being a boy) My mom gut tells me he's ok.. that he doesnt feel the need or want to talk but will eventually. But what do you ladies think? Sorry for such a long post.. but the grandmorher is getting teary and crying and saying he just breaks her heart and I dont know why.. but I know if she is going to act like that I dont want my son to be affected by that behavior or grow to think its his fault Nana is upset. Or worse yet to feel like there is something wrong with him. Am I over reacting? Could it be autism? Just need some sort of advice from someone objective.