Need advice about stopping a physical relationship with the father of my children

Tiffany - posted on 09/09/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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The father of my children and I have been carrying on a physical relationship for the past 13 years. We both have had relationships in between, but never together because "he didn't want our friendship ruined if it turned into anything more." Anyways about a month ago I recieved a text message saying that he got someone pregnant, and that she is far along. Well far along as in the baby came that day. He was afraid to tell me because he didn't want to "lose me" and he is also not with this girl either as he said it just didn't work out and they were better as friends. Well we had slept together a week prior to me finding out a new baby was here. He his the entire pregnancy from his family, my kids and me. Anyways, while trying to deal with all the lies and dishonesty he has continued trying to have a physical relationship with me, and I have been giving in. The problem is since this all happened I feel deeply horrible emotionally after giving in to him. I want it to stop, but I am afraid to be the one to cut it off and if i do I am afraid to lose his friendship. I know this sounds crazy!! Help.

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Sarah - posted on 09/09/2012

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Why do you want to keep his friendship? He is dishonest, cowardly and selfish. Friends should be none of those. I can see why you might want to remain on good terms with him because of your son, but that doesn't require anything more than being civil.



I know I'm being blunt, but you need to start saying no to him and mean it. What would happen if he got you pregnant again?

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Inge - posted on 11/26/2012

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Wow, physical relationship only, you have 2 children with him, he only wants sex with you,? A whole baby, a new life(baby) and your contemplating what you should do? You believe no one else new about this baby in his family? Shame on him, ha he made the mother of his children no more than a booty call? screwing with the your head, hurting you. Your scarring me, is this what love, respect is like. Hell i feel like crying. I should probaly delete this post. I am sorry, plese protect your heart, try not to get mentally twisted and his decisions have absolutely nothing to do with you. However dont become a forever victim.

Tiffany - posted on 09/09/2012

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Hi Sarah,



Thank you for your post and to be honest bluntness is what I need! I have twin girls that are 13, and I feel like my emotions are now starting to seep onto them and I can't let that happen. I don't even think the friendship is worth anything at this point either.

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