Need advice asap!

Joselin - posted on 12/04/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I just recently broke up with my babys dad, and he's family keep wanting me to go over so they get a chance to see baby, but the thing is i dont feel comfortable, my ex bf cheated on me while i had maybe a couple of wks pregnant and turns out that one night stand turned into another baby, she ended up looking for him but he was avoiding her, she found me on fb and told me, so you can only imagine how i felt, well he keeps on insisting on me going over for the holidays, he lives with his mom so you know how that goes everyone wishes to see her but i just dont feel that comfortable with it and my parents disagree with me going to, since i'm basically a single parent jobless at the moment, i dont like to disrespect my parents its really hard since i also dont want to keep my baby from them either, help!!!

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Jodi - posted on 12/04/2013

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He is your baby's father. He has rights, just as much as you do. If he wants to visit with his child in his home, he has that right. If you refuse, and he takes you to court, refusing won't look good for you.

However, on that note, you should set up a custody arrangement and visitation through the courts, for protection of all parties involved, and also file for child support.

Joselin - posted on 12/04/2013

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Yes I am even though I hate it soo much, I am going to make sure my daughter knows who her sibling is, and thank you! I really appreciate it and yes I already filed for child support, and even though I dont wanna see him I have to, But do you think for christmas I should take my 3mos old? I'm bearly getting used to all this, and I dont wanna seem like a mean person by not taking het during the holidays, any suggestions?

[momoftwo] - posted on 12/04/2013

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I know it's hard to swallow (because I hate my ex with everything in me) but eventually you will have to face them. He's going to have visitation and all that. Oh which reminds me he has to pay child support if he isn't already and you should go file for custody.
It really does suck having to see him but it's best for the baby if both parents are involved. Or maybe have the family come see you if that makes you feel better.
Are you going to continue talking to the girl since your babies are siblings or no?

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