need advice for baby no:2

Anna-marie - posted on 06/13/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




Hey ladies,

I am due to have my second child 13th january. Very excited, but extremely nervous.

my son will be just over 2 when it's born.

what i wanted is just maybe a little advice on coping with 2 kids, making my older son feel apart of it.. etc...

any advice would be much appreciated.

many thanks



Amanda - posted on 06/13/2011




Get him involved in helping with nappy changes (get him to pass you wipes and nappies)
If you bottle feed he can help feed the baby with your assistance, he can carry the bottles to where you are feeding.
Your son can help read the baby a book and sing songs to it.
As the baby gets older they will be able to play games like peek-a-boo.

when the baby is asleep spend lots of one on one time with your son so he still feels special too and that he hasn't lost all of your attention. Maybe find something that he really enjoys (I baked cakes with my son when my daughter was first born - it was his big bo activity that the baby couldn't do)

To make things easier on yourself you can batch freeze meals like curry or bolonaise so all you have to worry about at tea time is rice or pasta.
Also what I found to be the most beneficial thing to me was that I had my son in a really good routine so he knew what was coming next. I was lucky that when my daughter came along she fell straight into the same routine. I have 17 months between my 2


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Anna-marie - posted on 06/13/2011




oh thats a nice idea too with the book and the trike!! very cool..

i also heard to leave a heap of new presents at the door for visitors to give my boy when they want to see the new baby, so that he feels like its a good occasion.

thanks again x

Kara - posted on 06/13/2011




I'm in the same boat as you - I have a 2 yr old and about 3-4 weeks away from our daughter being born. I was concerned about him being young and truly understanding what it will be like to have this new addition. Would he understand? We constantly talked about him becoming a BIG brother, emphasized how wonderful he would be, he has a couple t-shirts and I would tell him where the baby is, talk to the baby, ready stories to her, etc. We also found a great book on becoming a big brother too. It's simple, but explains the changes, that Mommy & Daddy will always love him, that he's special b/c he's a BIG brother, etc. We also got him a special big brother gift - a tricycle. When the baby comes just be sure to have that one on one special time with your son - Daddy/Son Day and/or Mommy/Son Day too. Kids are amazing and resilient - I bet you'll be amazed :-) All the best!

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