need advice my son is 23 and is staying with my sister because where she lives he should be able to get a job no problem. hes been there 3 months and no job so she wants him out. my husband says no more he cant come home and im tired of trying to find him a place so that hes not homeless,what should i do ?

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Jodi - posted on 09/04/2013

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I wouldn't let him either. Its time for him to grow up and fend for himself. Why do you want to continue to enable him?

Yolanada - posted on 09/04/2013

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hes been unemployed for 1 whole yr and now he wants to come home but my husband wont let him.

Jodi - posted on 09/04/2013

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Kelly, why should he only apply for positions in his specific field of study? In my opinion, he should be applying for ANYTHING at this point, even minimum wage jobs. He has no right to be knocking back any work. I would never accept that excuse from my kids, that they can't find a job in THEIR field of work. So what? Flips some burgers!

Maybe letting him fend for himself will motivate him to pull a finger out.

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How long has he been out of school?
It can take new graduates up to two years to find a job in their field of study--especially in competitive fields, so I would be lenient for two years, but then I would have to let him fend for himself. If that means being homeless for a while, then let him be homeless. I was homeless during my late teens; I was able to build two successful businesses while living in a VW bug parked in a city garage, and by the time I was 22, I had earned enough to pay cash for my first house. Sometimes, hitting rock bottom is what it takes.

Sometimes graduates have to come to terms with the fact that there are no jobs available in their field--again, especially if he chose a particularly competitive field of study--they have to work their way up from the bottom. Employers are hesitant to hire new graduates with little work history--they want to see dedication and persistence. Have him get an entry level job in his industry, even if it is just working in the mail room or making coffee for the boss. If he can't manage that, have him get a job in fast food and work his way into management. Once he has that on his resume, he will be a better candidate even in a totally unrelated field.

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