Diana - posted on 04/21/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )
I have read numerous comments on this site regarding the heart break and struggles one has living with/advising an adult child with Asperger's. (I don't know how to "join" that conversation.)
My husband and I are struggling!! Our 26 year old has finally graduated from college but cannot find full time work. He lives in our downstairs (apartment with its own entrance, kitchen, etc.) He has all of characteristics that accompany Asperger's (terrible personal hygiene; doesn't see the need to wash/vacuum car; dirty dishes in sink for days; leftovers in fridge for weeks) The "battles" we have are over these types of things.
He is highly intelligent, has friends who play Yugio and Magic card trading games, has never had a date yet longs to be married.
He is argumentative. His attitude brings out the "worst" in me. As parents, we can feel "hostage" to his attitudes. We can't "kick" him out because he doesn't have the means to live outside of our home. We love him dearly!! I grieve at the "waste" of his potential. I was a stay at home mom for the first 8 years of his life (and we home schooled him until 3rd grade.) He was funny, bright minded, and a joy to be around when he little. Something happened during his junior or senior year of high school. The whole situation grieves my soul!