Alicia - posted on 07/01/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )
So, my fiance and I have a 10 month old who is crawling everywhere (pulling to stand as well) so of course she is getting into things. We try to keep everything out of her reach and put away but we also have a dog. She is obsessed with sneaking over to play in the dog's water bowl or try to eat the dog's food. She is only 10 months so I don't think time outs would work. I usually tap her on the hand and tell her no-no that's not for Kaelee that's for the dog (she understands the word dog). Is there something more I could do to teach her she can't do that?
Second question. Our best friends and their 3 children ( 6yr old boy, 4yr old girl and 14month old girl) are staying with us as they hit a rough spot financially and they are like family (we're their kids Godparents and they are our daughter's). Their kids seem so bad to me sometimes. My friends do discipline them. They do time outs, and sit down and try to talk to them (the older two) and as a last resort they do spank. I am just wondering if there's any advice because the 6 and 4yr olds talk back or even yell at their parents and us. The 4yr old has written on our brand new couches with a pen, on our car door with a black permanent marker and on the bedroom wall with a pink marker (mine you, we rent this home.. My fiance and I are the leaseholders). The 7yr old is very bad about talking back and even growling as if very angry when his mom tells him he doesn't like/want to hear. hthey both do the same things to my fiance and I as well. Does anyone have any ideas that may help. Just tonight while we were bathing the two younger ones my fiance walked into the living room where the two older ones were told to sit and settle down for bedtime soon and he caught the 7yr old boy fully sprinting across our brand new coffee table and jumping onto the couch. We are all at a loss because they both find being disciplined (even the last resort spanks) to be funny, esp the eldest. They laug rigt in our faces. I'm at my wits end as is my fiance and their mother. Please any advice would be great.
PS. Just the other day the kids were all dancing to music videos and before I could get to her or even realize what she'd done, my 10 month old had pulled the disk tray out and broke my fiance's $500 xbox game system. Of course he was upset (evenn though it's under warranty) but he took the anger out on me making me feel bad like I wasn't watching her closely enough. Then he kept bringing up how his xbox was broken randomly for the rest of the night making me feel worse and worse (even though he says he was joking). I told him how it made me feel, he apologized but brought it up again today making me feel bad once again. I know I'm a very sensitive person (but so does he) and even after telling him joking or not he really is hurting me and making me feel more awful everytime he mentions it. Any suggestions on that situation as well?
sorry this post was so long and I appreciate any advice or suggestion, etc but please don't be too harsh and don't be rude because that does not help.