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Hi, I'm looking for advice on dealing with my father and stepmom as well as other family members being overbearing.
My father remarried recently to a much younger woman, she's younger than my fiancé, and now I have a sister who is 2 and a bunch of young step siblings, ranging from 6 to 13. (I am 20) So as you can see they are very much still living in "parent mode". The too much "advice" and trying to be the parent over me is a big issue. And the other issue is that my stepmom thinks holidays should be at their house as well. For example: the Easter bunny brings him a basket at their house, or Santa brings him toys there, and she wants to buy him a Christmas stocking for Santa to fill. There are a couple reasons I don't like that. For one, I want to have holidays with MY family. My fiancé has twins and we have a son. I want to enjoy our holidays like a normal family. And I also don't want it to confuse him. I've told him Santa, the Easter bunny, the tooth fairy etc. bring him things at his house. How do I explain why he gets double? Or why he doesn't get presents from Santa at his other grandparents house? I shouldn't have to.
I know I should be grateful that they love him so much and I am. I truly truly am. I just want them to back off and be grandparents. They have 6 kids in their home that they need to be parents to and it seems like the only one they want to parent is mine.
If anyone has any advice I would GREATLY appreciate it.