Need advice on family size

Jasmine Elaine - posted on 04/18/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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this is probably going to sound really dumb at first but my mom and dad (i am adopted) have 5 daughters all under the age of 6. Now they have triplet identical girls due in august. they wanted a son and a daughter but haven't had much luck with the boy thing. They say they want to keep trying for a boy even after triplets but i see lots of moms with lots of kids get judged a lot and i don't want that to happen to my parents and even though I'm only 17 and have two daughters i plan on having another baby as well. Any advice would be great!

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Michelle - posted on 04/18/2016

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Jasmine: You are showing your age by flagging all the posts in here. This is an international forum and you will get comments that you don't like, that's life.

In regards to your OP, it's up to your parents on how many children they have. It's their life, not yours. You need to concentrate on yourself and your own children.

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Ev - posted on 04/18/2016

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Jasmine--Have you not taken the father to court for custody, child support and visitation? You should. He is responsible for those babies just as you are. Also it does not matter what last name the children have because in the end it only matters that the kids have relationships with both parents.

Do you not find it hard to raise babies so young? What about college? Your dreams and plans? Surely you had something in mind before they became a part of your life. What about a job? Do you work?

Jasmine Elaine - posted on 04/18/2016

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Shawn, i am looking out for my mother. I love her very much. i love my daughters also and they were certainly not a mistake. i have already graduated high school and am doing my best to give my daughters a better life then i had growing up. I'm not judging them because they are great parents as am i. i will raise my daughters my way. thanks for the advice but i think I'm on the opposite end

Jasmine Elaine - posted on 04/18/2016

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Evelyn my girls will be 3 months on May 11th. Their father left the day they were born because i refused to give the girls his last name when he said he didnt want to be an involved dad

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/18/2016

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Honestly (yes, this is going to be “harsh” so put on your big girl panties)! YOU are being judgmental of your parents choices! You, who really have no place to judge ANYONE on child rearing choices, considering that you are claiming to be a 17 YO kid with 2 kids of your own already!!!

If this is NOT a troll post, then my suggestion is this: YOU NEED TO LEARN ABOUT BIRTH CONTROL and how to use it effectively. YOUR family size is your business, but YOU need to be on your feet and a friggin adult before starting one. Until YOU have your house in order, you need to NOT criticize your parents’ choices. Trust me. You’re going to be on the receiving end of A LOT more judgement than your parents, who are fully adults, both in age and in action. You are the teen parent in the equation.
It truly seems that the “judgment” towards your parents is coming from you, not others.

Ev - posted on 04/18/2016

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Actually, Jasmine, it is a personal choice to have so many kids and then be done with it depending on the couple and the circumstances involved. You have a big family there with siblings. So how old are your own girls? And where is the father/fathers?

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