Need advice on how to leave Dad

Lindsey - posted on 04/13/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My boyfriend has never treated me right and I don't know how or why I have ever let it get this far. Now we have a daughter and things are worse then they have ever been. He does not hurt me physically but emotionally he has ruined who I once was and is bringing me down more and more. I know that all I have left to do is to leave him because I know that my daughter and I would be a lot happier. I just don't know what my steps are because I have no money to get us started, no income, and nowhere to go. Any ideas on where to go from here?

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You can go to social services in your area and get help with food stamps, even a first months rent when you find a place. If you dont have a place to go.. why not your parents, help you. Then get a job that may have in child daycare.. if she is small. I understand waffle house is like that. Besides.. I think social services helps with that too. They will help you to get onto your feet as well. If you have anything you can sell that you can do without then I would to help you get started. Save it and then look for a job and then rent. Good luck and may God bless you and your daughter.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/13/2013

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Well, you are not married so it will be a bit easier. You don't need to deal with a divorce and all the expenses, but I do recommend getting a lawyer for custody reasons. Now is the time to call on family for help. Is there anyone that will take you and your baby in? If not, you can seek out womens shelters in your area and see how they can help you get out. I would also figure out a way for you to get a job and start bringing in some money for you and baby, so you can get your own place. Starting from scratch is hard, but you have to start somewhere. Good luck.

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Jessica Leigh - posted on 04/14/2013

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I do not know if this will be helpful, but I live in Vermont where I was born and raised. Vermont has something called Reach Up. It is welfare assistance for childrens' parents. Food stamps are an excellent thing to have, state health insurance and section 8. See what you can apply for in your area. You will not regret it. I was able to get off of Reach Up, because my income went up. I still have food stamps, free excellent health insurance and a beautiful apartment that we have been in for 6 years, because of Section 8.

Lindsey - posted on 04/14/2013

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I live in a very small town, there are no jobs like that around here. I don't know that I could even leave her at a daycare because she will not be alone with anyone except for his parents She will start uncontrollably crying within 5 minutes, even with my parents. I couldn't imagine leaving her with a stranger, she would be terrified :(
but thank you very much for the advice I will be going to social services on monday :)

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