Need advice on relationship

Emily - posted on 07/27/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




I just had a baby girl 2 months ago and I've been living and with her father for almost 2 years now and I do EVERYTHING like I'm his wife. But he has yet to ask me to marry him. Our best friends just found out they are pregnant and just got married and u would think that would give him some clue? I just need advice on what I should do or how I should feel because it makes me feel pretty bad.


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Michelle - posted on 07/28/2013




Have you discussed it with him?
Sometimes men don't take subtle hints and you have to tell them straight out.
Why don't you ask him to marry you?

Sarah - posted on 07/27/2013




Not sure what advise I have for you. If you did not have a baby I would suggest living separately, which still might be my advise. Right now he has no reason to marry you. As you stated you do everything like you are his wife, so why would he want to marry you. It is kind of like you are already giving it to him for free so why should he "buy it"....not that marry you is buying you....just why does he need to bother. For guys marriage is all about the wedding night not about the wedding. The wedding is for the girl. The girl dreams about her wedding since she is very little. Most of the time the guy could careless about the dress, the flowers, the cake. who is coming and who is not, what pictures you take, etc. Most guys would rather do without all that and just skip to the wedding night. Well you have given him the wedding night already and then the wife afterwards so he already has all the things he would want. If you take that away and make him earn/work for the wedding night and the wife then you may get your wedding. Most people that live together do not get married even though most say they plan to marry someday.

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