Corey - posted on 11/24/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )
A little about me: I'm a stay-at-home homeschooling mom to 4 kids; 2 boys (15 & 16) that I had with my ex and 2 girls (9 &11) that I had with my husband. My parenting style is Love & Logic, I don't believe in taking things away or punishment, just try to use consequences and guidance instead.
A little about my ex: He is a recently divorced single dad (in addition to my boys, he has full custody of another son whose mother died and has partial custody of his daughter with his ex-wife). He lives in a community that seems to attract derelicts and he likes to party. A lot.
My problem: While my 16 year old has learned that his dad seems to be making mistakes and that he is very lucky to have a "normal" family and knows he has a pretty good life, my 15 year old admires his dad, loves the freedom he gets (basically no rules), and wants to move there.
On one hand, I feel like if I tell him he can't it will put up a wall between us and he will rebel, even run away to his dads. On the other hand, I want to trust that I raised him right and let him go hoping that he will make the right decisions (or even want to come home). But I also feel that with the very little supervision he is getting he will get into trouble and make mistakes and end up stuck in that community for the rest of his life.