Texas - posted on 09/12/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )
My 11 year old son has stopped wanting to go see his bio dad. My son used to put up a fuss about going to see his dad but I think it was b/c he was used to our routines; as soon as he would see his father he was all smiles. That was when his dad some him on a regular basis, like every other weekend. Now his father has a different job, moved 30 min out of town and is living with his girlfriend (i call her his step mother she is good to him). But she does have two children of her own. After an incident with my son getting dragged by a rope from his father's dog, my ex and I had it out and I told him that our son is very reluctant to go to his house anymore...his answer was when "I am off I have so many people to spend time with it's hard to get to everyone" I told him that was his choice but he would only have this time with his son. We have been divorced since my son was 2 and I have since remarried and now the family he has he thinks this is just the way life is. Although, this time I'm very concerend. I always try to let me son know as as possible that this is the weekend his dad will be picking up, we never know we just have to wait for the text (I think this is part of the problem and many times he will text and then "oh no i've got to work") but this week my son is pulling at my heart strings and my momma bear attitude. Since I've told him he has been depressed! He isn't sleeping well and has come right out and said I don't want to go! My question is do I back up my 11 year old and put my foot down or not? I'm so lost and confused!