LovingMy - posted on 06/03/2015 ( 10 moms have responded )
The father of my daughter and I had agreed to have a baby. We were not married and during the time we were together he became abusive. Unknown to either of us when he had assaulted me, we had conceived. After his first act of violence I left him. Four weeks later I found out that I was six/seven weeks pregnant. Fearing he would try to keep me in the state and also fearing he may hurt me further I left the state. I returned to my home state for family support. After the baby came I changed my mind in not telling him. I knew it was wrong to keep this from him, regardless of what he did to me. So I told him, he kind of already knew through mutual friends. In the meantime he also met and married a women during my pregnancy. He has a history of abuse (which I didn't know till after I left him). Come to find out he has other children, all different mothers, and he does not have custody of any of his children. My question is this: I have made numerous attempts to allow him to have contact with my now 2yr old daughter. He has declined. Now that the state has started the process of garnishing his wages he has been threatening with visitation and changing her name. I am not against visitations. However, I would like (because they have no established relationship and she is still only 2yrs) to have him come to my state (IL.) and have supervised visits till a relationship is established, what is the likelihood of me getting this granted? I also would like to know the likelihood that he can change her last name if I disagree to it?