Cheryl - posted on 04/12/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )
This is a very long story but I will try to keep it brief. I am a divorced mom of two boys, ages 11 and 13. We are currently living with my boyfriend in his house. He has three daughters of his own (also divorced) but they are grown and living independently for the most part. My issue is that he has very little to do with my boys. He will not go to a movie with us or out to dinner or much of anything. He will not attend my 13 year old's soccer games and I long ago gave up trying to get him to go. Any activity I do with them is by and large on my own. The house we live in is quite large so my boy's each have their own room. My boy's spend a great deal of time in their rooms because (and this is just me speculating) I don't think they really feel comfortable hanging around with us. I have tried to talking to my kids (carefully and in private) to ask if they are happy with our living arrangement and they claim they are but I have no idea if that is really the case. I want my BF to take a more active role with them but he pretty much flat out refuses or says his relationship with them is developing. I see very little or next to no indication of that.
I am in an extremely grim financial position. I am in the process of filing for bankruptcy and the area that I live in is very expensive especially for a 3 bedroom apartment or house. I have a good full-time job but I really do not make enough money to support the three of us. I do receive child support from my ex-husband but even with that, it is not enough. I have no family or close friends here (everyone is at least an 8 hour drive away). I cannot relocate because I share 50/50 custody with my ex-husband.
I guess my question is, do I try to find a way to move us out or do I stick it out and just deal with the situation as it is? There are many other details to this story but it's a lot. I feel overwhelmed and lost and just need some advice. Thanks in advance.