Need advice! Should I allow bad behavior toddlers remain friends?

Kim - posted on 11/22/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hi mommies and daddies,

Few months ago, I had a birthday party for my two sons. There was this little boy, almost 3 years old, was playing in the ball pit (playpen with plastic balls) with my son (3yrs old). He kept on throwing the balls to his face and kept aiming his bandage. We asked him to stop and he won't. Meanwhile his mom is nowhere to be seen. When the party was over and went home. My husband told me that the kid called my husband and my son the N-word! If I knew sooner, I would've spoke to the mother, but it was too late. Now, she kept on wanting to meet up and I don't feel comfortable having my child play with hers. Kids at age 3 mimics everything, I don't want to go out and out of nowhere he blurt it out. I don't want to be framed racist because my child learned it from someone else. What should I do? HELP!

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Sarah - posted on 11/24/2015

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If this woman abuses her children you need to contact CPS and let them investigate. If there isn't a problem then no case will be opened, if there is a problem, you are doing her kids a favor.

Kim - posted on 11/24/2015

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Thank you, I would just wish my husband tell me when it happened so I can easily tell her. I only met this mom three times and the last two times I'm not a fan of how she abuses her child and we were never friend, just acquaintance.

Sarah - posted on 11/24/2015

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I have four kids, and had no problem telling a mother; "I don't think our kids play well together, you child uses foul language and hurt my child" That will end it, she may not want to be your friend afterward, but so what? You obviously don't like the way she parents. Your kids are 3, friendships are fickle and fleeting.

Kim - posted on 11/22/2015

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I guess I also wanted to vent. I will try and talk to her and see what happens. Thanks for the advice.

Michelle - posted on 11/22/2015

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So what advice are you after?
Whatever I said you have shot down.
If you don't want to be around her then tell her that you don't appreciate her child making racist comments.

Kim - posted on 11/22/2015

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She's aware that her child says the N-word, but she just laughs about it. Also, she's my sister's friend. My sister knows I keep dodging meet ups with the baby momma, but she still insists!

Michelle - posted on 11/22/2015

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Talk to the Mother about what happened. She may be unaware of what was going on or if she was aware then you need to stay clear of them.

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