Need advice with handling my 13 year old daughters attitude.

Zee - posted on 11/22/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Now a days my 13 year old thinks she can do what ever she wants. Just last week she came home with her eyebrows done. Two weeks before that it's a facebook page that she's had since July. And she come home from school late almost everyday. When I ask her what's up I get ' I don't know '. Any advice is appreciated thanks.

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Nadine - posted on 11/22/2013

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Hi Zee, I have a 16 yr son an 18 yr old daughter an I can only tell u wat Ive been through an how I handled it but at the end of the day every child is different in behaviour an environment.Unfortunately these days our children r growing up in a society full of bad attitudes, bad people an bad opportunities tht come way too easy. I'd have to say I experienced it all with my kids, attitude, tantrums, an my son at 14 running/leaving home whn I tried to ground him for his behaviour. I'm glad to say I have both kids at home one at work an the other in school we have a great relationship an I always know where they are when not at home. My theory was simple, under no circumstance were they or are allowed to swear at me EVER not only would they cop a smack in the mouth but I have always told them the moment u do that you have no respect for anyone an they can get out of our home an I mean tht. I don't snoop into their things an if I have come across something tht i think needs attention i do it with the utmost tact bcause these days yr child can shut u out an tell u nothing which i think is worse. Basic rule or courtesy as i call it is to ring or text me where they r if they leave the environment i think theyre at not to check on them emphasise this but for theyre safety an yr piece of mind u cant help them if u cant find thm lets b real they mite not tell the truth but at least u know they're ok right u should tell yr daughter tht if she's not coming straight hme from skool she
could at least txt or ring to say she's going to b late thts not much to ask for right an
well at the end of the day thts all we want isnt it to hear their voice i always just answer ok thanx be safe an it works for us my 18 yr old just got back frm borrowing my car an is in her room my son is in collingwood with mates an will call if he plans on staying out or heading hme. We talk about everything like drugs, smoking, peer pressure, sex etc I dont dictate yell or bark orders I calmly but sternly voice the good the bad, the dangers the possible outcomes an give the best possible advice tht i know from my own personal experience i make sure they've heard me an understand it an then tell them but the choices r yrs u have to live with them but as long as u take responsibility for them an remember tht every bad choice has consequences tht is a fact an only u will have to face those. So far so good I have to wonderful kids, but believe me whn i say not without alot of tears an hardwork an even still now the odd tantrums lol but respect for u is the key i think an its not much to ask of them. Mayb try an start with her getting to txt u if shes late or going some where else first slowly work on the other situations as they arise kids will do what they want anyway but at least u an thm r aware of it or else u could be the mother whos the only one tht doesnt know what her daughters doing bcause she just cant b bothered with the screaming fights u have everytime. Well I hope this helps an good luck :)

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