Need advise...9 yr. old daughter wants to continue to sleep in fathers bed, even after I have moved in.

Melanie - posted on 07/23/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have moved in with my boyfriend and his 9 yr. old daughter, who visits 3 days a week, wants to continue to sleep in his bed snuggled up next to him...I have an issue with this considering her age, she is becoming a young lady and sure do not want people to think the wrong thing...I have tried to talk to him and her about it but they don't seem to see any issues...What do I do or say, it just doesn't feel right at her age to sleep with daddy?!

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Amy - posted on 07/23/2012

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Little miss is right its none of your business. I know many kids boys and girls at that age who still sleep in their parents bed. It's not talked about normally because it's considered "taboo", but if you talked about it in a positive manner I'd bet you'd be surprised you would find its not uncommon. In the nights she's there you can sleep in another room if you're uncomfortable with it, and if it's not something you can move past let your boyfriend know that you'll be looking for your own place and that this isn't the relationship for you.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/23/2012

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It really is non of your business. YOU moved into her environment. She is still a little girl, that loves her daddy. She will stop on her own when she is ready. But for now, back off. It really is not your business, and if dad is ok with it, daughter is ok with it, back off. It is his kid, not someone elses.

The only way people would "think the wrong thing" as you put it, is if you talk about it with others, especially in a negative way. Once again, it is non of your business, and neither is it everyone elses that you are gossiping about it with. many parents co-sleep, or bed share. This is not something new or strange, it just may be new to you.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/23/2012

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Maybe you should not have moved in with this man if you don't know him well enough to know his daughter still sleeps with him. These are things you need to know before you move in, to figure out if this is the right situation for you and him, and of course his daughter most of all.

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