NEED ADVISE SO CALLED ADULTS ARE SPREADING RUMORS ABOUT MY DAUGHTER?

Jessica - posted on 10/10/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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This is gonna be long and may be confusing, but please read I really need advice. I have a 13 year old daughter she is my only child. We are very close and have a good relationship. She's mature responsible respectful caring,makes good decisions, well mannered and gets good grades. Now don't get me wrong I am not one of them parents that believe my child is perfect and does no wrong. Trust me I know she is not she has her days. At times she can be stubborn spoiled rude have an attitude argue not listen and be moody, but she's a good kid and a typical teenager. She has broken my trust, but has earned it back. I may not be the strictest parent, but I also know that I am not allowing my daughter to do whatever she wants. Also I know she is not doing what these so called adults are saying. I no where my daughter goes and check on her each and everytime. I talk to parents and met everyone of her friends parents.So an old friend of mine from junior high has a daughter the same age as my daughter. This women and I have known each other since we were in junior high. We have never had any problems (SO I THOUGHT) with one another and actually were good friends at one time. We just drifted apart. Our daughters do not hang out with one another, but they have mutual friends. The last couple of days I have received several phones calls from my daughters friends parents and friends of mine. Letting me know this women that I went to school with is talking about my daughter and me. Everyone is saying that she said don't let their children hang with my daughter,be careful if they let them hang with my daughter,that my daughter is not a virgin,shes a hoe,she drinks and smokes weed just crazy horrible things. She's also saying I'm a bad mom and I let her do whatever she wants and just making up stories about me too. Last weekend her daughter snuck out her house and was caught at an older mans house having sex,smoking weed and drinking. My daughter was not there for a fact. She was at my neices house having a party/sleepover for my neice 5 towns away, but for some reason this women is spreading a rumor that it was my daughter and not hers. Now my daughters friends are asking her if she did this stuff and the parents are calling me telling me that they know its not true but wanted me to know what was going on. Also my daughters godmother and I no longer talk. I'm also her daughters godmother. We have never kept out children away from one another nor talked bad about each other. Her daughter is 6 and I have raised her daughter more than she has. She only chooses to be a mom when she wants to be she has left her daughter with me for months without calling or anything. I don't saying nothing because she would take her away from me and I'm this little girls only stability. For some reason she is now talking about me on facebook. This is what she wrote and when someone asked her who is she talking about she said me.



When a mom is a friend more then a mom the child will do as she/he pleases when a child parties 2 much or stays at a friends house cause u let them then sneaks out just cause the mom talks 2 the parent on the phone that don't mean nothing go to the house and make sure ur child is gonna b watched the rite way cause kids r out there going 2 gridding partys out there having sex and be careful moms theres a few moms I know who think they know everything but think again we know more then u think and u do take them and get them checked!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



These stories are lies by grown adults. I also went to cvs and bought a drug test MY DAUGHTER PASSED, but even if these stories were true. 1. They are mothers come to me. 2. I have known both of these so called adults for 20 years or more and 3. One of them is her godmother. I really want to say something I just don't know what exactly to say because I will end up fighting and I'm not on that junior high level my daughter is in junior high and you know what's funny my daughter did sneak out to a party 3 months ago I punished her for a month and the one that wrote this status which is suppose to be her godmother was like don't be so hard talk to her remember we were young before also never once has my daughter been somewhere without me meeting the parents so shes clearly lieing. Which brings me to say what if I believed these two idiots what would that be like for my daughter and I right now. Also another thing the one that wrote this status is a horrible mother my god daughter doesn't even want to be with her mom. I had her for months straight without her mom calling or taking her she only has her now because she has a boyfriend and she likes to pretend to be a mom. Her daughter even calls me mom I don't allow it but she always does.I always say I'm auntie not mommy and she says why doesn't no one want to be my mom. She breaks my heart. I love her so much.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/12/2012

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If you truly are above the whole thing, then you needn't worry if false claims are filed against you.



Because if you are truly a good person, good parent, and above board, then dss won't tolerate continual false claims, nor will they investigate.



The only time that you would have a problem with anything is if you have something to hide.

Jessica - posted on 10/12/2012

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@amber I mentioned what her daughter did only because that is the day she claims my daughter was there and that it was my daughter there not hers also her daughter went to the guidance counselors at school and told them it was her and 3 girls the school filed a 51A on all girls which was mandated. Also dss just got an anonymous call filing a 51A on me. Whoever called dss on me explains the story of thatr night but leaves her daughter out of it and puts my daughter in it. Dss came to my home on Wednesday and they closed it right out stating that they know the call was not legit. I had them on facebook because I thought we were friends after seeing what my daughters god mother wrote I did delete her and I deleted the other one as soon as she spread these rumors. And yes I don't believe them and neither do others but its still hurting my daughter that these rumors are STILL being spread @shawnn on that same post someone asked her who is she talking about and she said my full name also I have her deleted but mutual friends have told me she wrote another one the other night move on from this how can I move on with they have now filed a fake dss call and continue to try and spread these rumors. Honestly I think I've been real mature by not letting myself get to their level and that is why I asked for advise because everyday they push more and more

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/10/2012

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Besides agreeing with Amber, I have to wonder why you took a completely ambiguous FB post, that mentioned no names, and assumed that it was directed at you?



I agree. If you can't grow up enough to rise above it, then you're just as bad as they are, and you are all setting poor examples for your own kids

Determined - posted on 10/10/2012

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Perhaps I am out of place here but yes these two women are being immature but so are you saying about the one woman's daughter having sex with the older man. All three of you need to grow up look at the example you are setting for these young girls. One other thing if they are such horrible people then why no delete and block them on Facebook? The parents of your daughter's friends said that they are not believing these rumors and you said you know it's not true so that is all that matter. These women are wrong and immature yes but you are equally wrong for airing their 'dirty laundry.' Delete them and move on.

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