Need Emergency Advice: My 17 yr. old daughter is pregnant, she is due February 1st, 2012, as if that wasn't enough to ovewhelm me, her boyfriend seems like he is alergic and will die if he has to work at all! He wont get a job nor will he do anything in the house to help out and I am a single mother of four . My daughter begs me not to say anything to him, and I dont want to be the reason the babies daddy isnt around I dont know what to do?

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Ashley - posted on 12/13/2012

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also, if he cant handle you saying something to him about it or setting rules for your house, then how is he going to be able to handle being a father? it is time they both grow up and get to know the real world. they are the ones who put them in this position, they are the ones that need to step up and do what is right for there baby.

Ashley - posted on 12/13/2012

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i was 16 when i got pregnant with my first. i was living at home and my mom let my boyfriend (now husband) move in. he had to work, and i had to finish school and help around the house. you make your daughter finish school, and help you around the house. it is time she learns to keep it clean and cook, she is going to be a mom herself. and you make him get a job, even if you have to take him to apply for jobs. if they cant do all that, then they need to find there own place to live.

Carly - posted on 12/13/2012

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well your daughter is gonna be a mom soon, so perhaps, sit her down and explain that once baby is here, she will perhaps understand where u are going from, raising kids on your own. And if she doesn't say something to her boyfriend, then u will... but someone will have to

Jodi - posted on 12/12/2012

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If your daughter doesn't want you to talk to him, then tell her she needs to be grown up enough to do it. You need to explain to her that it is not fair to you or your other children that she and he do not help out financially (yes, her too). You did not get her pregnant, it is not your responsibility. That is their responsibility. If he decides not to stick around, then what sort of daddy is he?



You need to make some house rules, present it to them and make it clear that this is part of being an adult. They aren't children any more, they need to understand that they both have to step up, and that includes your daughter.

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