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Faroun - posted on 02/29/2016 ( 7 moms have responded )

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my 3 year old boy has refused to write lower case 'a' and 'b' and 2. anytime i put the book in front of him he starts crying. am confused.

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Michelle - posted on 02/29/2016

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I agree with Sarah, don't force a 3yo to learn to write!!!
If you start associating learning with stress now, he will rebel later. Learning should be fun at this age, not structured. Step back and let him be a child.

Sarah - posted on 02/29/2016

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He is 3 yrs old. Your expectations are far above his developmental ability. That is a 4 yr old developmental task. Learning should never be forced and at that age their learning comes through play.

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Dove - posted on 03/04/2016

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He's 3. At 3... ALL learning should be fun and play and nothing forced. He doesn't need to know how to write numbers and letters yet. Yes, you can absolutely teach him if he wants to learn and is ready... but he doesn't need a book to learn.

There are letter coloring pages you can find online to print out if he likes to color. You can have a 'letter of the day' and casually point out signs and things w/ that letter on it in your every day world. He can draw the letter (if he wants) on a chalkboard, in the sand, w/ finger paint or pudding (use it like finger paint in a confined area... lots of kids like it cuz they can eat while they learn). There are alphabet/number puzzles if he's a kid that likes puzzles.

Basically... find what he enjoys doing already and casually incorporate learning into it... if he resists still... Just let the boy play. Learning comes when they are ready... I promise.

Samantha - posted on 03/04/2016

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I think that normal a child at 3 years old will just be learning how to write there letters if that child can write letter that is wonderful but if he can don't stress about it he will get it. my son is 5 years old and he struggling with some letter but he is improving.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/29/2016

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Stop forcing your child. Developmentally, at 3 years of age, they are not ready for structured writing.

Let him play, color, use pencils, etc. Stop forcing the learning. If you make it traumatic for him (which, if he's crying, it's traumatic), you'll only make it harder for him to learn.

Sarah - posted on 02/29/2016

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I agree completely. At three his fine motor skills related to writing would be copying simple shapes, such as a cross or circle. Not the shapes combined and certainly not the alphabet. Make learning to write a slower more game like process.

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