Need help 14mo will not sleep through night

Heidi - posted on 08/23/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My daughter has never slept all night long and she is 14 months old. Recently she has been taking a late nap and staying awake until 11 or so and still wakes up. She eats regular food all day, so she shouldn't be hungry. I give her a bottle right before bed, but a few hrs later she is tossing around. If I give in - which I always do - I will just feed her a bottle and she is asleep by the time its gone. There was a point a few months back where I could just rock her to sleep without the 3am bottle, but that no longer seems to work.

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Belinda - posted on 08/23/2012

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thats fine, try for bed a little earlier though. if she only sleeps 45 minutes in the afternoon then she is going to be on her second wind by 8pm. it sounds like she is waking up but not able to put herself to sleep. Falling asleep is something she needs to learn to do and is linked with putting herself back to sleep at night. Seriously talk to your ped for options, and try to find those books I think you need the help. There is so much information there!

Heidi - posted on 08/23/2012

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Even as an infant she would only take one or two 45 min naps a day. She went to bed around 8 or 9 consistently for a long time. Only recently (a week or two) has she felt the need to stay up late. Last night I gave her a bottle at 11 she fell asleep at 1230 and woke up at 430 wanting a bottle. She tosses and flips with her eyes closed. I know that a bottle puts her right back to sleep but instead I tried to hold off. I did get her out of bed but just tried getting her back to sleep. She cried with her eyes closed awhile then finally got down and just stayed awake for probably two hrs. She then fell asleep somewhere around 630 and I had to wake her up at 915 this morning. I am going to get her back on to her 1pm nap time but even with a nap at 1 and bed by 8 or 9 she still won't sleep all night

Pam - posted on 08/23/2012

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Put her to bed at a decent time, shut the door and let her yell..She will off and on until she realizes you are not going to give in. I would go in one time about 1/2 hour after he goes to bed and say it is nite nite time, you go to sleep. out the door and not return until morning when he wakes at 7..You have to let them know who is in charge. Staying up til 11 is not a good bed time. Be firm, it will be hard but so worth it. My child goes to bed at 6pm and wakes at 7am ..nothing in the night, if he wakes he rolls over and goes back to sleep. He has done this from 9 month til now 14 months and

he gets plenty of sleep..and I get plenty of down time..Heavenly, I might add. Be firm...loving and firm.....

Belinda - posted on 08/23/2012

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If you want to get rid of the paci now is a good time to do it, once they reach 2 It becomes a lot more difficult. If weaning the bottle at night and the paci you don't have to leave her alone to cry, sit with her and offer her comfort occasionally, you can move away from the crib steadily. Once you start this DO NOT GIVE IN! it will only make it more difficult later on so be very sure that you are ready.



The early nap time is more for an earlier bed time which means she will get more sleep, so she will be ready for bed time at around 7. I would also strongly recommend that you remove your daughter from falling asleep in front of the television. Try to get her to fall asleep in the crib. A great book to read is by Kim West. You can buy a hard copy - or on Kindle http://www.amazon.com/Sleep-Ladys-Good-N...



You might be able to get one at your local library or just buy and download it onto your computer: http://www.softlysleeping.com/resources....



There is so much more to this than we can tell you on this forum. What is her day schedule like, how long is she napping? plus lots more questions. There is help out there.



Good Luck!

Heidi - posted on 08/23/2012

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She uses a sippy cup during the day and has just been getting a bottle right before bed at night. She weighs around 21 pounds. I did rock her to sleep every night, but she has been falling asleep on the couch to the tv then I carry her to bed. It seems that everytime her pacificer falls out she tosses around. Which I know its time for that to go too.. She was taking a nap from 1-3 in the afternoon, it was not until recently that she waited until 3.. yet with the early nap she still would wake up.

Vicki - posted on 08/23/2012

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Hi Heidi, I agree with Belinda. My son use to wake up in the middle of the night as well. I use to hold him and give him his bottle and he would go back to sleep. I finally realized that I needed to be the one to change! I then decided that I wouldnt give him a bottle in the middle of the night or lift him out of bed either. I instead went in his room with a sippy cup with water in it. He would shoved it away from him when i would put it up to his mouth I then said ok you are not thursty and lay him back down and i would leave the room. This routine lasted 3 days before he actually slept through the night, alot of crying from the both of us, it broke my heart laying in my bed listening to him crying but i had to and it did work. Aslo motivated me to brake him from his bottle during the day as well

Good luck to you!

Belinda - posted on 08/23/2012

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It looks like it may be time to start weaning her off the bottle in general and specifically at night. How much does she weigh and does she put herself to sleep at night? Unless there are medical issues she should be able to learn how to put herself to sleep and back to sleep in the middle of the night. Also, stop the late nap. On average 14 month olds can nap in the morning 45 min1.5 hours and in the afternoon. They should be waking up around 3-4. Then she should be ready to go to sleep about 4 hours later.

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