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Jackie - posted on 01/25/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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How do I realise help my child come out of a tantrum that she is in which causes her to scream kick and slapped me, because she doesn't get her own way. First time major tantrum I been confronted with, and I hadn't a clue what to do. So I lifted her up and carried her 2 car in middle of it. Probably wrong think to do but this was my first major one and I was shocked, and upset. And cried my eyes out when she went to bed. My daughter is 5yr old...

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Lemonstomp - posted on 01/25/2014

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I remove my son from the situation too. change if scenery helps...then we talk about feelings in the car if it wasnt a horrid tantrum...if it was...im quiet til we are safely inside our home, then we talk at home

Ev - posted on 01/25/2014

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You did right removing her from the place you were. She is more than old enough to know that if mom says no to something that should be it. Taking her home was the best choice. You may have to do this a few more times but it should sink in.

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Ev - posted on 01/26/2014

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I would not keep on talking about past trangressions over time. She tossed the fit. You took her home. She told you why she did it and said sorry. End of it. In the course of events though over time, she is going to forget this fit and why it happened. Its best to get the event over on the time it happens. If talking about her actions after happens helps to make her understand things, do it once. SHe is bound to have the fits again so be prepared to do what you have done. Just for home: If she tosses a fit walk away from her. Say nothing. But still keep a wary eye on her to make sure she is fine. When she realizes you will not give her the attention for her fit she will stop. There may be no need to talk about it if it is at home.

Jackie - posted on 01/26/2014

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Thank you ladies. At least it sets my mind at easy that by removing her from the situation was the right thing to do, even if it was in the height of the tantrum. Can I throw another question out there, we talked about it when we got home and she explained to me her reason and said sorry for it, but do u think its a good or bad idea to keep talking about it for the next few days. Or should we stop now because she said sorry! Confused!

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