NEED HELP!!!

Cassie - posted on 04/21/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My step son is 10 years old and has been molested by his bio mothers grandfather. He was five when we found out. My husband has full custody now and we have given him so much therapy and he has many mental disabilities. He has been in and out of the hospital for many reasons. He has now (after all of this and being careful not to leave them alone together all these years) touched my 5yo daughter. I'm getting her help but I can't find help for him. He is in need of hospital help badly. We don't have soonercare and the only place that will take him at 10yo only takes soonercare. I have called everyone and all thier sources with not luck. Please, there has to be someone who can help us !!!!

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Cassie - posted on 04/23/2015

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I already tried there and as much as I would live to put him in that program its outpatient and he really needs an inpatient program. With his mental state right now there are many many things that need addressed aside from the problematic sexual behavior. I'll check out the site though for the other resources. Thank you so much for helping us !!!!

Sarah - posted on 04/23/2015

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Ok, I spoke with the head social worker today and her first suggestion was to reach out to CPS again. She did say since the 10 yo has been removed from the home that CPS may not step in right now. Another place to try is a here:
http://www.nyap.org/sex-offender-treatme...
She told me this national service does sliding scale and will work with kids both in and out of the system. I will update this after she contacts a resource in Oklahoma.

There is a program and the University of Oklahoma for all sorts of children with issues, including sexual predators:
https://www.oumedicine.com/pediatrics/department-sections/developmental-behavioral-pediatrics/center-on-child-abuse-and-neglect

Sarah - posted on 04/22/2015

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You are really in a tough spot. There must be an option. I work as a school nurse, let me ask about and see if I can find some suggestions from our social workers.

Cassie - posted on 04/21/2015

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I have never left them alone together and put them on separate floors of the house. He takes meds to help him sleep because of PTSD and it knocks him out so I thought we were safe to have them sleep in thier own rooms at night. I was told that having him in our home and stable was the best thing for him. I feel like such a crappy mother now. I really did just follow him around all day to make sure he was OK and that they were never alone together. I should have known though. And just because I'm not living off the government and don't qualify for medicaid then I can't get help for him. That's not right. I have no options.

Cassie - posted on 04/21/2015

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They are separate ! The first thing I did was send him to my parents. I called the child services and let them know what happen. They said I have to get him help but I can't find help.

Sarah - posted on 04/21/2015

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I'd call CPS and ask for help. I know you don't want to stir the pot, but you absolutely have got to protect your 5 yo, and the only way to do that may to be to separate the two children.

Cassie - posted on 04/21/2015

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I live in Tulsa OK and there doesn't seem to be ANY help here. I have called 5000 people in the last two days. I'm freaking out. I'm begging everyone !!! He has many mental issues and he is not showing any remorse or care for his actions. He is hallucinating (which is not new but wayyyy worse). He needs a hospital badly !!!!

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