Kissy - posted on 04/20/2017 ( 8 moms have responded )
I am in a serious relationship for 2 years after being in an abusive marriage. I am rebuilding my life, working, studying for a new career, have 2 kids, pets, own a home, etc. I know every relationship is different with time spent together but I feel as if he is trying to act as we live under one roof when we don't. It's causing a lot of conflict. I work until 7:30 then need to get ready and can't leave my dog earlier or he will pee. I get to his house 9:30 on weeknights. If he comes to me he arrives around 7:30. On the weekends we spend all our time together.
During the week, I do not see him 2 nights. One night because we both have our kids and it's a school night. The other because I need to clean, study, etc. I have also learned to make boundaries and in the future want that night to myself to do hobbies or make new friends. I moved to a new state...6 years ago but it feels like a blur due to all of my issues with divorce etc.
I am upset because I feel we see each other as much as we can. I value quality over quantity. He has a hobby till 9 pm every Thursday and works Saturday morning. I understand that.
I feel not seeing each other 2 weeknights a week when we both live in our own homes is good. I know it's late on a weeknight if I first get to his house at around 9:30 but I can't get there earlier. I am getting burnt out. We got into a disagreement this week. He said he needs more of me. I told him I wish I could but i do not know what to do. I told him he needs someone who has no obligations and only works the same schedule as him. He was upset as was I. He said he did not want to lose me.
Help??!!! I am at my wits end. We do not live together. I can't act as though we do. He has no pets. He has a career. Our kids see each other on weekends when we have them...that's another source of conflict now.. will get to that another time. How often is good to see a BF or GF each week?