need help from moms

Leon - posted on 03/07/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hi my name is Leon, i am 35 and I'm dating a single mother and it is hard lol. I love her and here little boy very much. The past few months me and her little boy has come close and we do stuff together that normally she only did with him and that makes her angry, she says it is feeling like i am steeling him away from her. An example is going down the super tubes at water parks. All I want to do is just be part of the family but sjoe you women can be confusing at some times (no offence).

So please help. Any advice would be great.

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Leon - posted on 03/21/2015

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Thanks Raye. We are quite serious and have been talking about marage. Sorry for the late reply.

Raye - posted on 03/09/2015

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I am a step-mom with no kids of my own. It is an adjustment to be combined into a ready-made family. If you love them, then keep working on it. It can be very rewarding at times. And, yes, it can be frustrating at times. There's going to be some trial and error to find how everyone fits into that new dynamic. Know that you both may fumble a little along the way, and that's okay. Just love them both and try your best.

Leon - posted on 03/09/2015

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Hi Raye, first thank you for your reply.

We are quite serious with our relationship, i will take your advice and try to build on our relationship. It is not always easy but i am willing to give it my all

Raye - posted on 03/09/2015

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Leon, how long have you been dating? And how serious have the conversations been about your future together? Maybe she's worried about her son forming a bond to someone that she's not sure will stick around? I don't know you, don't know your circumstances. I'm just guessing. Some women also get very emotional about seeing their kids (especially first born) grow up and form relationships with others. While I'm sure she's glad to have you in her life, it could just be a difficult change to go from being the center of her little guy's world to him starting to favor you for some things. It's a normal response from a child, though. And hopefully she will see past her own emotions to the good that you're doing for this boy. Boys (and girls) need positive male role models. Just don't try to over-do things too quickly. Go slow and let things happen gradually. Reassure her that her boy still loves her, but he's also going to form a bond with you. Reassure her that you're there for both of them and want to be there for them for a long time to come.

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