Need help getting through new-baby-jealousy

Aree - posted on 01/25/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My 3 year old is driving me crazy lately. It all started when I gave birth to her sister 3 months ago. Major jealousy struck, and i mean MAJOR. My 3-yr-old was super sweet, very intelligent, friendly, extremely social, everything I ever wanted in a kid. Now, shes ALWAYS in a bad mood, always whining, trying to get my attention doing bad things, destroying the house, grumpy 24/7, hitting all the kids in preschool. Shes turned mean and hates everyone who ever mentions anything about the new baby. I know its jealousy cz it started soon after her sister came into our lives, and she would say things like "I dont like my baby sister" and "why did u have to bring her home from the hospital?". Shes become a completely different person, her teacher, her babysitter, her grandparents, everyone says shes so different and so much more meaner. I cant stand it any longer, i want my 3-yr-old to act normal again and I want my life to go smooth again. Her behavior is giving me too much stress and making me always in a bad mood with her. And believe me, I do show her lots of attention and love, but shes still jealous. What can I do? How can I help her get through this?

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Aree - posted on 01/26/2013

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Well, my baby is not a day-time sleeper at all, so that adds to the problem cz shes always awake during the day. And i dont have anyone to help me with babysitting, I have to pull my own weight. Its a struggle. You know, I try to do fun things with her, just for her, like taking her out to a "princess tea party" or the library or to McDonalds PlayPlace or Chucke Cheese , but the whole time there, shes grumpy and crying and screaming and being in a bad mood, I wanna slap myself for ever thinking of taking her anywhere fun

Michelle - posted on 01/26/2013

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When the baby is sleeping do you spend one on one time with her? Doing things like colouring or drawing?

You need to show her (not just tell her) that she is still special to you and she will have special time with you as well. You may even need someone else to look after the baby for a while so she gets the time just with you without the distraction.

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