Simone - posted on 05/08/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )
I've come here out of desperation because I don't know where to go with this just yet.
My son will be 3 in June and I don't know what is going on at the moment but I am so frustrated with him.
I have an older son, 5, who is a good child. Does well at preschool, speaks beautifully, had a kind heart and I can reason with him well. Then we have a baby, 15 months, who is the life and beans of the family. He is funny and loves affection and can understand and communicate well for his age.
My middle child, who as I said will be 3 next month is very difficult. He is aggressive, he doesn't reason and he doesn't listen. He whines constantly... If he wants a something to drink it has to be in a specific bottle and he will whine at the top of his lungs until he gets it. Then he will do the same for a blanket. And the same for a pillow. And so on until he is satisfied. He does this with everything. If he wants to go to the toilet he will whine until he pees his pants, or if I put him on the toilet he will scream, get off and get back on his way. He is so difficult, I know I am talking about a 3 year old here but it's not normal.
I have tried going down to his level and talking calmly saying "I know you understand what mommy is saying" "please talk to mommy, use words, tell me what you want" etc but he just screams louder.
It's driving me insane.
He is also very aggressive with his brothers and he will lash out physically if they touch what he is playing with and will not play with them or even beside them.
Please help me, he wasn't always like this. He has a sweet nature in there somewhere.
I need to fix this before our relationship is damaged or he grows up to be hateful.
I really appreciate advice only. No judgement.